What is Your Family Legacy?

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Mayer Yellin and his son Normie (Andy’s grandfather and great grandfather) in front of Mayer’s bar in Hartford, CT circa 1913.

I think that leaving a legacy creates meaning for each of us. Legacy can help create a sense of belonging and may mitigate any feelings of loneliness.

How can we find meaning in our lives? Can we look to our family traditions for guide and inspiration?

What legacy has your family left to you? What is your legacy that you will leave to your family?

My greatest physical family legacy is my Passover handwasher (pictured below) that has been in my family since the late 1800s. I wrote about how this ordinary object has been transformed into one of my most extra ordinary possessions. (From my breakingmatzo blog: One example of something ordinary to extraordinary in my life is my family’s antique brass hand washer. I received it as a gift from my grandmother, Helen Fish Goldfarb. Her father, my great grandfather Max Fish received it from his father (my children’s great great great grandfather Moshe Fish). It is from the late 1800’s in Dynow Poland and has been in my family for over 100 years.)


Does your family has an artifact or heirloom that has been handed down over the generations?

I wrote about the incredible life of Max Fish and how he saved over 42 relatives from the Holocaust. Some of my fondest Passover highlights as a child were celebrating Passover Seders in Pikesville, MD, with Eugene Fish’s family, one of Max Fish’s sons.

The Passover handwasher (pictured above) truly connects my children to over 150 years of our family heritage because it is a physical connection to our family background. This physical object can transport my children and their children through a portal to connect with our family history. https://breakingmatzo.com/philosophy/food-for-thought-seder-discussion-topics/

My mom (of blessed memory) gave me her lasting legacy of the love for Passover and celebrating the Jewish Home Holidays. My mom’s spirit is what has motivated me to create Breaking Matzo. Over the past two years, I have been so humbled by the beautiful comments that our community has shared about how you also share and celebrate the Jewish home holidays with your family and friends. All of your traditions and thoughts have been so inspirational.

When I thought about my physical connection to my great grandfather and my mom, I wondered about where I came from?

After some research, I discovered that both of my great grandmothers were born in the same year in the same town – both in 1882 in Vilna, Lithuania. My great grandparents all came to the United States around 1900. I also discovered that both sets of my great grandparents were married in the same year -1907, over 110 years ago.

When I thought about the legacies that I have received from my family, I realized that my maternal grandfather, Normie Yellin, also taught me lessons that I have tried to pass along to my children. My family legacy from Normie was not physical, but emotional. Normie imbued me with the feeling of unconditional love and support. He wrote me weekly letters when I was at boarding school. His letters always included $20 for pizza with my friends. In the midst of the stress of boarding school life, Normie’s weekly handwritten letters always boosted my spirits, filled my stomach with food, and heart with love. I will never forget his favorite expression that he always told me when I was a little down or frustrated. Normie would say “don’t let anyone rain on your parade!” Then he would repeat it with emphasis “DON’T LET ANYONE RAIN ON YOUR PARADE!” It has really become one of my life mantras. My children know the expression instinctively. We have repeated it so often. A favorite saying that my Mom always told me, “The early bird gets the early worm; the late bird gets the late worm; there is always a worm.”

My final family legacy that I want to share is the oldest family photograph that I have. This photograph shows Max Fish and his father Moshe Fish (my children’s great great great grandfather) and other relatives celebrating Passover in 1930 in Dinov, Poland. Sadly, a number of his relatives were murdered in the Holocaust. Fortunately, Max came to the United States and enabled me to be here today.

This is the oldest family photo that our family has.

I think that this is part of what makes Breaking Matzo so special. It is a chance for all of us to share and celebrate legacy and traditions from our parents and grandparents and then to pass the same (and sometimes new) traditions to our children and grandchildren.

I believe that tradition is repetitive action imbued with meaning. You never know when the first will occur. We all have the opportunity to leave a mark on our world and leave a lasting legacy for future generations.

I would love to hear your thoughts:

  • What is the oldest legacy physical object in your family?
  • What is the family lesson that you have learned from your relatives and will pass to your family?
  • What is your oldest family photo?

Appendix:

I would like to share my family history with photos.

The oldest relatives that I remember meeting as a child are my paternal great grandparents, Max & Jenny Fish and my maternal great grandparents, Norman & Sophie Yellin.

Max Fish was born in 1881 in Dynov, Poland. Jenny Karnick Fish was born in 1882 in Vilna, Lithuania. They both came to the United States around 1900. Here is a photo of Andy with Max & Jenny Fish in 1968.

Andy with his Mom

Andy with his mom and paternal great grandparents Jenny & Max Fish and his brother Laurence.

March 24th, 2017 is my paternal great grandparents Max and Jenny Fish’s 110th anniversary (they got married on March 24th, 1907). Below is a photo of a locket which Jenny’s closest friends gave her to commemorate their 50th wedding anniversary in 1957.

Charm bracelet

Charm bracelet given to Jenny Fish by her friends to commemorate Jenny & Max’s 50th wedding anniversary.

My maternal great grandfather Mayer Yellin was born in Russia in 1884. Mayer Yellin and Bessie Cohen Yellin got married on February 17th, 1907, 110 years ago.

Mayer Yellin c. 1910

Portrait of Mayer Yellin c. 1910

Bessie Yellin c. 1910

Portrait of Bessie Yellin c. 1910

Andy with brother Laurence & Grandparents

Andy and his brother, Laurence, with his maternal grandparents, Norman & Sophie Yellin.

Unfortunately I never met them. However, I was very close with my maternal grandparents, Norman (Mayer Yellin’s son) and Sophie Rosen Yellin. Above is a photo of Andy and Laurence (my brother) with our maternal Grandparents (Normie and Sophie Yellin) in 1968.

 

 

 

How Making Space for Nothing Can Make You Feel More Complete

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How can making space for nothing make you more complete?

Why are Passover and Purim relevant in today’s world?

  • How can you feel more complete by creating space for nothing?
  • Can you actually become more fulfilled by being more empty?
  • Are you satisfied with your current life? Do you long for more?

Passover and Purim could provide important insights into these questions.

Living in Exile is an important theme in the Torah. In Genesis, Adam and Eve are exiled from the Garden of Eden (Genesis 2:1-2). Abraham becomes exiled from the land of Canaan (Genesis 3:23-24). During Exodus, the Israelites are exiled during their slavery in Egypt. The Book of Esther is one of the final books of the Bible. The book of Esther explains the exile of the Jews while living in Persia in 369-357 BCE. The story of Purim is how Queen Esther saves the Jews from extermination by the evil Haman.

Why does the Torah remind us so often of Exile? What is exile? Exile is the state of living in one land while longing to live in another land. The Jews were often living in Exile and always sought to return to Jerusalem. “Jerusalem” can be interpreted to be their Promised Land, a state of being which can be an aspirational place.

One of the most famous Psalms which directly discusses the concept of exile is Psalm 137. (Jimmy Cliff and the Melodians famously sang Rivers of Babylon. Matisyahu also sang Jerusalem which is also based on the lyrics of Psalm 137). The Jews have been taken in captivity by the Babylonians and their leader Nebuchadnezer in 586 BCE. The Babylonians demand that the Jews sing about Jerusalem. In the Psalm the Jews initially agonized about how they can sing about Jerusalem when they are in Exile. Their captors taunting them to sing catalyzed them into a sense of consciousness about their circumstances. They then realize that if they “forget Jerusalem, their right hand may as well forget what it is supposed to do.” In other words, they should never forget Jerusalem. Even while in captivity in Exile, they must always remember and aspire to return to Jerusalem. This feeling is punctuated in the last verse which expresses the rage against their captors. The idea is that you must really actively agitate during your captivity in Exile to aspire to Jerusalem. You should not be complacent in your existence.

How can we apply this to our daily lives? I immediately look for a food metaphor. Cooking risotto on the stove top comes to my mind. If you look at the pot, the risotto may look deliciously appetizing when you lift the top. However, upon closer inspection it may actually be burnt on the bottom of the pot. Thus the better way to cook risotto, is to actively stir the risotto during the cooking process. Stir the bottom, mix all of the risotto actively.

Let’s return to the concept of exile. Exile can be seen as your current life. In some ways, we may be a captive to a state of mind vs. a state of being, to our worries and daily anxieties. This captivity can be understood as a state of mind vs. state of being. Jerusalem can be imagined as our promised land, our spiritual utopia that we aspire to sing about and bring into our daily life in exile. Thus our vision of Jerusalem creates agitation in our current life so that we don’t become complacent. Our agitation creates space and emptiness so that we can then incorporate some elements of our vision of Jerusalem into our daily life and become more complete and fulfilled. Of course, this journey never ends. It is a constant journey of self-discovery.

Ironically, agitation can create cracks in your life foundation and this can actually be a good thing. The reason is because cracks in the foundation allow for space and growth. It creates room for incorporating lessons from Jerusalem (an aspirational state of being) into your daily life.

As Michael Singer wrote in The Untethered Soul, “The spiritual journey is one of constant transformation. In order to grow, you must give up the struggle to remain the same, and learn to accept change at all times.” (page 81). Singer also writes “Spirituality begins when you decide that you’ll never stop trying. Spirituality is the commitment to go beyond, no matter what it takes. It’s an infinite journey based on going beyond yourself every minute of every day for the rest of your life” (page 124)

I would like to conclude this blog with a quote from Anne Marie Bennstrom, founder of the Ashram, from her book entitled Kai, “Creation is constantly adapting and refining itself. Everything that has a beginning also has an end, and every end is also a new beginning, and between these two polarities, life unfolds its destiny.” (page 12)

 

Melodians Album Cover

 

Appendix:

The picture at the top of this blog is a piece of art by Kishio Suga which captures many of the elements of Psalm 137 in my mind. The main structure has cracks which have created emptiness that allows Jerusalem to fill the space. Jerusalem, an aspirational state of being, is outside of your daily life structure. See the pieces outside of the main structure.

Books:

https://www.amazon.com/Untethered-Soul-Journey-Beyond-Yourself/dp/1572245379

https://www.amazon.com/Kai-Altogether-Improbable-Love-Story/dp/1582704805

Psalm 137

 

Lyrics of Rivers of Babylon by the Melodians

By the rivers of Babylon Where he sat down
And there he wept
When he remembered Zion

But the wicked carried us away in captivity
Required from us a song
How can we sing King Alpha song in a strange land? ‘Cause the wicked carried us away in captivity Required from us a song
How can we sing King Alpha song in a strange land?

Sing it out loud
Sing a song of freedom, sister Sing a song of freedom, brother

We gotta sing and shout it
We gotta jump and shout it Shout the song of freedom now

So let the words of our mouth
And the meditation of our heart
Be acceptable in Thy sight, oh Far I So let the words of our mouth
And the meditation of our heart
Be acceptable in Thy sight, oh Far I

Sing it again!
We’ve got to sing it together We’ve got to shout it together

By the rivers of Babylon
Where we sat downAnd there we wept

When we remembered Zion
Oh, the wicked carried us away in captivity
Required from us a song
How can we sing King Alpha’s song in a strange land?

‘Cause the wicked carried us away in captivity Required from us a song
How can we sing King Alpha’s song in a strange land?

Sing it, sing it, sing it We’ve got to sing it, brother We’ve got to sing it, sister

Lyrics of Jerusalem by Matisyahu

In the ancient days, we will return with no delay
Picking up the bounty and the spoils on our way
We’ve been traveling from state to state
And them don’t understand what they say
Three thousand years with no place to be
They want me to give up my milk and honey
Don’t you see, it’s not about the land or the sea
Not the country but the dwelling of his majesty

Jerusalem, if I forget you
Fire not gonna come from me tongue
Jerusalem, if I forget you
Let my right hand forget what it’s supposed to do

Jerusalem, if I forget you
Fire not gonna come from me tongue
Jerusalem, if I forget you
Let my right hand forget what it’s supposed to do

Said, ah, rebuild the temple and the crown of glory
Years gone by, about sixty
We were burned in the oven in this century
And the gas tried to choke, but it couldn’t choke me

Will not lie down, I will not fall asleep
So they come overseas, yeah they’re trying to be free
Erase the demons out of our memory
Change your name and your identity

Afraid of the past and our dark history
Why is everybody always chasing we?
Cut off the roots from your family tree
Don’t you know that’s not the way to be

Jerusalem, if I forget you
Fire not gonna come from me tongue
Jerusalem, if I forget you
Let my right hand forget what it’s supposed to do

Jerusalem, if I forget you
Fire not gonna come from me tongue
Jerusalem, if I forget you
Let my right hand forget what it’s supposed to do

Said they caught up in their ways, and the world’s gone craze
Them don’t know it’s just a phase, case of the Simon says
If I forget the truth, my words won’t penetrate
Babylon burning in the place, can’t see through the haze
Chop down all of them dirty ways
That’s the price that you pay for selling lies to the youth
No way, not ok, there’s no way, not ok

Ain’t no one gonna break my stride
Ain’t no one gonna pull me down
Oh no, I got to keep on moving

Ain’t no one gonna break my stride
Ain’t no one gonna pull me down
Oh no, I got to keep on moving, say

Jerusalem, if I forget you
Fire not gonna come from me tongue
Jerusalem, if I forget you
Let my right hand forget what it’s supposed to do

Jerusalem, if I forget you
Fire not gonna come from me tongue
Jerusalem, if I forget you
Let my right hand forget what it’s supposed to do

Jerusalem, if I forget you
Jerusalem, if I forget you
Jerusalem, if I forget you
Jerusalem, if I forget you

Ordinary to Extraordinary Lives: Gena Turgel

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Holocaust survivor Gena Turgel passed away June 7, 2018 at the age of 95. Known as the “Bride of Belsen,” because she married one of the British soldiers responsible for liberating the Bergen-Belsen concentration camp, Turgel survived four concentration camps.

Born in 1923, Turgel was the youngest of nine children and was 16 when the Nazis invaded Poland. She was moved to the Krakow ghetto  with her mother and siblings where one of her brothers was shot by the SS and another fled never to be heard from again. She and her remaining family were sent to Plaszow labor camp where one of her sisters was shot as she tried smuggling food into the camp.  She and her remaining family were later forced to march to Aushwitz in the winter of 1944. In 1945, leaving her last sister behind, she and her mother spent four weeks on a “death march” to Buchenwald. They were later transported to Bergen-Belsen. It was there that she cared for Anne Frank who was dying from typhus.

On April 15, 1945, the British army liberated Bergen-Belsen. It was then that Turgel met Norman Turgel. The two married six months later. Turgel’s wedding dress was made from parachute silk. The two settled in the U.K. and had three children. She spent her life sharing her stories with thousands of students across the country and published her memoir, “I Light a Candel,” in 1987.

For more information on this extraordinary woman, click here.

Let’s Truly Express “Thank You” to All of Our Wonderful Moms

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pictured above: Andy and his mom (of blessed memory) when Andy was 5 years old

How can we properly say “thank you” to our moms?

With Mother’s Day approaching, I wanted share a message to help mark the moment.

It is so important to say “thank you” to our moms and express appreciation while we celebrate Mother’s Day.

There are so many ways to celebrate and say thank you. As I pass my second Mother’s Day without my mom, I am so grateful to have found blessings in her memories.

I wanted to share my reflections on our last Mother’s Day with our mom. Given that we all lived in different places, we were not always able to celebrate Mother’s Day in person together. We always sent flowers and cards and spoke on the phone. Given how serious our mom’s illness was, I asked both of my brothers and children to visit my mom in Boston at the hospital. It was truly bittersweet to all be together. We were so happy to celebrate our mom (and grandmother) but we knew it would be our last time together. Unbeknownst to the rest of us, the granddaughters prepared a special gift for our mom. They wrote a song for her.

For background, we traveled together with our mom for family vacations every other winter vacation. My mom was a prolific writer. She wrote thousand of articles, 11 books and one autobiographical play. Her most famous plays however were the plays she wrote for the four granddaughters on each family vacation. My mom and the granddaughters rehearsed each afternoon (a welcome respite for the parents) and performed the play on the last night. We all laughed and applauded. They were truly magical performances.

Andy’s mom with his daughters Lucy (left) and Caroline (middle) at Caroline’s Bat Mitzvah which was on Mother’s Day 2009

On our last Mother’s Day together, our daughters assumed our mom’s writing mantel and they wrote and sang a personalized song for our mom. It was such a beautiful and touching moment. My mom’s writing example and family celebration was fully reaIized by her granddaughters. When I prepared my mom’s funeral montage, I was fortunate to find video of my mom introducing one of these special family vacation plays. It is truly a moment that will live with us forever.

I have found a lot of joy in reliving moments that we shared with my mom and captured by taking photos.

I would encourage you to take photos during Mother’s Day to “create footsteps in the sand.”  It can be a real joy to look back at these special memories.

A favorite artist of mine once told me, “If you want to see different things, travel. If you want to see change, stay in the same place.” Taking photos of special family occasions helps tell the story of the event for a future memory. Taking a photo each year at the same occasion helps create a tapestry of life that illustrates how we have all evolved and changed.

Thank you so much to my mom (of blessed memory) and all of the wonderful moms in the world.

Andy’s mom with her grandsons Harrison and Myles on Mother’s Day 2013

Andy’s mom with her granddaughters Gabrielle and Olivia

How to Find Your Dream Job

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Over the years, I have often given career advice to young people. And, as my older daughter is now a senior in college, I find myself talking with more and more college seniors and recent graduates. I wanted to share my career advice more broadly, and I hope you find these comments helpful in finding professional happiness.

Summary: You will find a great job. You really will. Relax and just know you will find a really great job. Too much anxiety and worry is unproductive. However, you will need to work really hard in order to find that great job. It won’t just appear!

My hope is that the following gives you an easy-to-follow manual for finding a meaningful  job.

The best way to find a job is NOT to ask for a job! Yes, never ask for a job!
Instead ask people to suggest you to other people who may offer you a job. This gives you a wide range of people to talk with. This also creates the easiest connection with people. Say to people “I am asking you for advice and suggestions for people to talk with.” That is an easy ask — everyone can say “yes”. If you ask people for a job, they may prefer not to talk with you versus having to say “no”. By the way, if they do indeed have a job for you, they will be able to say “Well, yes, I could offer you a job!”

Start a notebook. Yes, a physical spiral bound notebook. Note all of your calls and names on the page. Put the date on the top of each page. You need to work on your job search every day!

Daily Job Search:
Pick three areas of interest. Set up a career call / interview with people in those industries / areas:
How do I find someone to talk with?

  • Family / Friends — cast a wide net. Let people know what you are interested in
  • College Alumni — visit your college career office and find alums who are willing to talk
  • If you are on an athletic team or extracurricular club, network with recent graduates (seniors when you were a freshman)
  • Internet Research — Google and Google and Google

You are trying to generate a list of 5-10 names. Then start setting up  meetings:

“Dear Joe/Samantha,

I am a Senior at XYZ College, and I am interested in learning more about ABC industry.

I have worked / interned/ (job experience) or College Club / Extracurricular activity.

Do you have time for a 15 minutes telephone career conversation?

I would really like to learn from your experiences and get your advice.

Please let me know when you may have fifteen minutes to talk. I will make myself available.

Thank you so much in advance for taking the time to talk to me.

Regards,

Andy”

What you should talk about in a career interview:

  • Explain your background
  • Describe your ideal job or work environment
  • Ask them to explain their job and how they arrived at their position
  • Simply close and ask them if they can recommend anyone else for you to talk with.

Five questions about their job:

What is it that you do?
What is the substance of the job? Data/ analysis? Heavy writing and research? Etc…

Who do you work with?
All MBAs? Only high school graduates? Big or small teams? Or do you work alone in a remote office?

Who do you work for?
Is the company driven by the client? By the boss? Who is the leader of the organization? Who is your direct manager?

What is the culture of your company?
What type of culture is there among the employees? How do people get along? How do they communicate?

What are the lifestyle implications?
Is there a lot of travel? Long late hours? Are there a lot of last minute surprises? Or is it very predictable and steady work / life balance?

Then for your career advice:
What is the best advice that someone gave you early in your career?

BASED ON MY BACKGROUND, DO YOU HAVE ANYONE TO RECOMMEND THAT I SHOULD TALK TO?

This is the key question! You want to get more names for your note book to follow up with!

Write a thank you note to the person for taking the time. And, keep in touch with them. Be sure to follow up with them after you have spoken to the person they suggested you call. Keep them informed. They are now part of your broader community of career advisors and cheerleaders!

  • Preparation for a career call
  • Follow up
  • Keeping in touch
  • Notebook
  • 30 minutes per day

Resume
Prepare your resume. There are a lot of resources for how to write a resume. My only addition is to make sure you have an interesting and authentic personal comment at the bottom. Explain your interests — gnome collecting, writing new recipes, or juggling. It may really create a connection with the interviewer. Share your heart. Look to make a connection. For example, I really love gnomes, and I talk about gnomes with almost everyone I meet.

Letter of Recommendation
At the end of an internship, job, or other professional opportunity, be sure to ask for a letter of recommendation. This way, should you require a letter for future endeavors, you won’t have to worry about how much time has passed since the end of your employment. If you wait a few years and then ask for the letter, chances are, your supervisor may not remember much about your specific duties and accomplishments. By asking for the letter in advance (or drafting it for them and submitting it to them for approval), you ensure that you’ll have a substantive, specific, and genuine letter to use in the future. It is also good practice to update your resume and review the section with your employer to ensure the accuracy and consistency of how you represent your experience.

Attitude, Aptitude, and Effort
These are three key qualities. You cannot adjust your aptitude. You are born with certain abilities. However, you can greatly impact your attitude and your effort. You can be more positive and work harder than others. These are ultimately more important than your raw intelligence.

Persistence. Patience. Polite.
You need to be really persistent. In my first job search during business school, I had a very strong introduction to the CEO of a company. Nevertheless, he never returned my phone calls. I called his assistant over thirty times until he finally returned my call. I was patient and polite to his assistant. When he finally returned my call on a Monday, I interviewed on Wednesday and he offered me a job on Friday. When he was ready, I was ready, willing, and able.

Rejection and Resilience.
Rejection is an inevitable part of every career. There will be jobs you apply for and do not get. It is alright to be disappointed, but it is crucial that you don’t allow yourself to become discouraged. The key to success is not in avoiding rejection but in having the resilience to bounce back from it over and over again.

My daughter Lucy once applied to a job she really wanted and was rejected. I wrote her this letter to help put this rejection in perspective:

Dear Lucy,

I am sorry that XYZ Company rejected you today. It is truly their loss. However, I want to make sure that you understand how it can truly be your gain.

As you pursue a career in business, rejection is a constant. Employers will turn you down. Prospects will turn you down. Investors will turn you down. Candidates will turn your offer to join your company down. However, none of these rejections should turn you upside down.

Resilience. Resilience. It is as important to me in business, as tradition is to me in celebrating Judaism.

I have been rejected countless times in my career. For jobs, by investors, by employees I have tried to hire. Nevertheless, I have been resilient and rebounded each and every time.

What is my secret that I want to share with you?

Persistence, Passion, and Patience.

As you have seen in the meeting you attended with CUSTOMER A, we failed in our initial effort.  It was truly one of the worst meetings I have had in my career. Did that stop me?  no, never, no how!  I just got back up, brushed off my knees, swallowed my pride, healed my ego, learned and reviewed and thought very very carefully.

As you can see with our recent CUSTOMER A success (thanks to your role and contribution), we have persisted and succeeded.

Lucy, you are a rock star! You will do amazing things.

I am so so proud of you beyond words.

Love,

Dad

Soar like an eagle – Don’t squat like a duck! How I learned to stuff envelopes…with pride!
My first job was an unpaid internship working in Washington, D.C. in the House office building for Congressman Beau Boulter from the 13th district of Texas. I worked as a House intern during my high school senior spring semester. I had been accepted to Harvard and was excited to help the congressman change the world. I was full of ideals and energy but was somewhat surprised when my first job assignment was to stuff envelopes for his constituent mailings. Nevertheless, I recalled the advice I heard from Pat Riley the former All Star / legendary coach of the LA Lakers, Miami Heat, and NY Knicks who gave a lecture about “soaring like an eagle and not squatting like a duck”. Pat Riley described his experiences on the road during the NBA season when he stayed at various hotels. Although the ingredients were the same at each hotel — check-in/ check out, bed, towels and soap in the bathroom, and occasional room service. The experience at the hotels that Pat stayed varied widely! Some hotel staff made these basic ingredients so spectacular. And, some hotels made these elements mundane and disappointing. Pat Reilly said that you have the choice to soar like an eagle or squat like a duck.

When I looked at my monumental pile of envelopes to stuff, I recalled Pat Riley’s advice and could immediately feel the wind rushing past my ears as I soared like an eagle. I immediately figured out the most efficient way to stuff envelopes. I also learned to watch C-Span so that I was fully informed of the current debates on the House floor. My co-workers were amazed at how quickly I could stuff envelopes. They were also impressed with my understanding of the topics being debated on the House floor. Due to my energy and commitment to being the best envelope-stuffer on the House office staff, I was soon promoted to other tasks that required a broader set of responsibilities. For me, no task was too small or mundane. I was determined to exhibit my very best with whatever task/assignment given to me. My highlight project of my internship was writing a speech for my congressman which he read from the House floor. My promotion to write words that his lips read on the House floor was only possible because of my initial efforts to lick constituent envelopes with my tongue.

Are you a Duck or an Eagle?

Suggested Reading:

Ray Dalio:
How the Economic Machine Works

Fred Wilson Venture Capitalist Blog:
A VC

Twyla Tharp. The Creative Habit

NVCA Resources for Venture Capital

Mike Lewis. When to Jump

Passover Menu Ideas – Menu 2

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Here are some suggestions for your Passover Seder menu!

Beverage:
Indian-Jewish Sangria
Indian-Jewish Sangria

Appetizer:
Chopped Liver

Entrees:
Golden Chicken Soup
Golden Chicken Soup

Grandma Boody’s Brisket
Grandma Boody's Brisket

Sides:
Italian Charoset
Italian Charoset

Chinese Charoset
Chinese Charoset
To explore our other international charoset recipes, click here.

Desserts:
Coconut Cheesecake with Candied Lemon Curls
Coconut Cheesecake

Chocolate Covered Matzo
Chocolate Covered Matzo

Food for the soul:
Hand Washing Basin
During the Seder, common matzo becomes extraordinary by breaking it in half to create the Afikoman. What is something ordinary that has become extraordinary for you?
Click here for a complete list of our Passover discussion questions.

 

Passover Menu Ideas – Menu 1

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Here are some suggestions for your Passover Seder menu!

Beverage:
Indian-Jewish Sangria
Indian-Jewish Sangria
Appetizer:
Chopped Liver
Chopped Liver

Entrees:
Freedom Lamb
Freedom Lamb
Golden Chicken Soup
Golden Chicken Soup
Za’atar Chicken

Sides:
Moroccan Charoset

Moroccan CharosetSpanish Sephardic Charoset
Spanish Sephardic Charoset
To explore our other international charoset recipes, click here.

Desserts:
Chocolate Matzo Mousse Cake
Chocolate Matzo Mousse Cake
Marzipan Stuffed Dates
Marzipan Stuffed Dates

Food for the soul:
Hiker
During Passover, we celebrate the story of the children of Israel seeking freedom in the Promised Land. What represents your Promised Land? What is freedom to you?
Click here for a complete list of our Passover discussion questions.

DIY Seder Plate

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Six traditional items are arranged on the seder plate, which is the focal point of the Passover Table. These include Maror (Bitter Herbs), Charoset (Mortar), Karpas (a vegetable), Zeroah (Lamb Shank), Beitzah (hard boiled egg), Chazeret (more bitter herbs). Each item has a special place on the seder plate, and each has a special significance to the retelling of the story of the exodus from Egypt.

Typically, seder plates are round with room for the word or image “Pesach” in the middle. Using a rectangle seder plate, you can create a non-traditional and modern seder plate with a spot for each of the 6 items. This is so simple to do! Make sure you date the bottom of the plate so this timeless piece can be used and remembered for many years to come.

Materials:

  • Serving Platter: Rectangle Ceramic Plate can be purchased at any home store…we found ours at Target. Just make sure it is large enough to hold all the seder items and bowls if you wish. Use small bowls or espresso saucers.
  • Sharpie Oil-Based Markers (fine point) (these will also be used for Miriam and Elijah Glass Activity)
  • Image guides (see below)
DIY Seder Plate Materials

Step 1:  

Wipe down paintable area with alcohol pad.  Check out our templates here to use as a reference, or create or find your own pattern.

Step 2:

Paint words and or images on bowls/plates or directly on plate. Outline first with black oil sharpie and use alcohol swab with qtip to remove excess paint. Then use Sharpies to color in images and decorate seder plate with all the items that appear on the plate for your Passover seder.

DIY Seder Plate Step 2

Step 3:

Let paint dry for 24-48 hours.

DIY Seder Plate Step 3

Here’s another version we made with small plates that fit into a larger tray. Use your imagination when you choose your dishes to make your seder plate.

DIY Seder Plate Final

TEMPLATES (click images below to view larger):

DIY Seder Plate Stencils DIY Seder Plate Stencils Hebrew DIY Seder Plate Blank Stencil

What is Purim?

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What is Purim? Purim is a Biblical holiday described in the Book of Esther. Given that Queen Esther was such a remarkable woman, I thought that Purim should be explained in the words of one. My mom was a remarkable woman who inspired me in so many ways, including to found Breaking Matzo. As such I thought it would be appropriate to share my mom’s Purim explanation in her words from her book Judaica:

“The story of Purim is a simple one. It is one of the few holidays in the Jewish religion where the hero is a woman and a young and pretty one at that. Esther was picked out of thousands of young women to become the second wife of the king of Persia, Ahasuerus. Cautioned by her uncle Mordechai, she concealed the fact that she was a Jew, and followed his instructions to become a good wife.

The story could end there, but it didn’t.   When Esther learned that her husband’s trusted advisor, Haman, was plotting to kill all the Jews in Shusan, she devised a plan at a great risk to herself to expose him, save the Jews, and still keep her husband’s love.

I still remember my childish glee and triumph when dressed like what I thought was a 5th century Persian queen, I looked forward to scream, yell and whirl my grogger or noisemaker to drown out Haman’s name every time it was mentioned in the reading of the megillah, the Purim story.

For many young Jewish girls, it would be the example of Queen Esther that would inspire them to tackle unpopular causes, fight prejudice and hypocrisy, and not be afraid to put themselves on the line. Esther has become a role model who has survived history. To me it is interesting that even the ancient rabbis who did not allow women to participate in the hierarchy of the Jewish religion were impressed by Esther’s initiative. In fact they instructed men to read the Purim story once, and then drink and rejoice, and women to read the story twice.

 Purim occurs during the Hebrew month of Adar. The word Purim means casting the lots and in fact the story of Purim centers around the gamble taken by a young Jewish woman named Esther and it is her story that is read during the Purim service. “ 

Myra Outwater, 1999