Living Life on the Ladder. How Planning for “Nothing” Can Bring “Everything.”

The dream of Jacob’s Ladder provides a great metaphor for living. In this week’s torah reading, Genesis Chapter 28 Verse 10-19, Jacob dreamed of angels climbing the ladder. Angel in Hebrew means “messenger.” The angel-messengers start on the bottom of the ladder and carry a message up to heaven and then return with a message from heaven down to Jacob on earth. As a result, Jacob learned of his spiritual connection by the ascent of the message and also the message returning to him. It is the journey of a message and how it comes back to us with a fulfillment that we could never have dreamed of when we began the journey of ascent that is one of the very important messages of Jacob’s Dream.

Jacob’s Ladder can provide magical insight into how to live your life and find meaning. A few years ago, I had dinner with a friend, Mike Lewis, who was debating about whether to take a year off and play on the professional squash tour. He was 24, a Dartmouth college graduate where he captained the Varsity Squash team, and was an aspiring junior venture capitalist. He had it all. Or so he thought.

One day, he decided that he wanted to take a year off and play on the international professional squash tour. After careful reflection and planning, he decided to make the jump. We had multiple conversations about the pros/cons of taking time off. In our last dinner when he finally committed to the unknown path of turning pro, he asked me what he would do with his time on the tour when he wasn’t playing squash. He asked if he should enroll in an online MBA, study a language, or start a new company. I reflected and told him “No, don’t fill the time and the space. You will find that something will develop in the time between all of the squash training, squash tournament matches, and travel between the tournaments.”

I explained that he should think of his year of playing professional squash like a Ladder. The geometry of a Ladder is that only 15% of the surface area is comprised of the rungs and ladder structure. 85% of the surface area is air – the space between the rungs. All of the growth and development of the ladder takes place as you climb, from one rung to the next rung. The growth actually occurs in the empty space between the rungs. Similar to Jacob’s dream, the message comes from the ascent of the ladder.

I then made the connection to the squash tour. I told Mike that if he won every squash tournament that he entered, it would take about 120 hours of match squash. If he practiced 2 hours a day, six days a week for 50 weeks of the year, it would be 600 hours. Thus the squash portion of the year would only comprise 720 hours, which is 30 days, or one month. One month of the entire twelve months would be squash related. Eleven months would be the space between the rungs. I told him that the squash tournaments and training were simply providing the structure of his year. That was Mike’s ladder. The exciting opportunity for growth and development was how Mike would handle and learn in the space between the squash tournaments and practice. I explained that he would find that planning for “nothing” scheduled would potentially bring him “everything.”

In today’s hectic world, too many of us fill our lives with so much, yet for so little. Endless and repetitive meetings that are not necessary. Overscheduled personal lives. Multi-tasking without a break.  It is truly like a ladder which has a rung to space ratio of 50:50 instead of 15:85. In such a 50:50 ladder, there is no place to put your feet and hands as you climb. The structure of the ladder is so filled and compact, that you cannot even climb it.

I told Mike, “Try to minimize the structure of your ladder. It should be sufficient to have structural stability. However, maximize the space between the rungs where you can find growth and spark creativity.” I told Mike that “Being bored is a blessing.”

One year later, Mike told me that he had an amazing year. He was so inspired to share his personal story about jumping off the rat race of his life and starting something new. As he traveled, he found many other people searching the question of how to start a new passion while feeling trapped in the structure of their current life. Mike shared his personal story of taking a jump and giving up a secure job as a venture capitalist in order to become a professional squash player. Mike wrote a book and started a social media site called When to Jump. It is a collection of essays and personal narratives that people from all over the world have shared to form a common purpose – how to live a purpose driven life and find personal meaning.

Back to the ladder. One day during Mike’s journey, I received a text from him. “Andy, thought you would enjoy the photo. I am in Cape Town. I am living life on the ladder. Thank you!”

The photo in this blog is the photo that Mike sent to me when he climbed Table Mountain in Cape Town, South Africa. I think that it captures my thoughts exactly. Look at the perspective that you are able to have when you climb the ladder. And look at all the things that one learns and experiences that Mike could have never imagined by just beginning the ascent and learning how to grow and thrive in the space of the journey that is available in between the ladder rungs.

Below you will find three exercises to help apply “Living on the Ladder” to your daily life.

Exercise #1:

Print your weekly calendar for a three-week period. Examine your meetings/appointments and determine when each meeting was Transforming (truly valuable and worthwhile), Neutral (not so valuable and not necessary), and finally a Waste of Time. Use three highlighters to mark each appointment — yellow for Transforming meetings, green for meetings that are Neutral, and Blue for those meetings which were a Waste of time.

Then try to determine when each meeting was scheduled. Was it a longstanding reoccurring meeting? Was it a meeting planned weeks in advance? And finally, was it planned closer to last minute? Maybe less than one week in advance or even the day before?

My hypothesis is that many of the BLUE Meetings (waste of time) are reoccurring and long standing meetings. I would also surmise that many of the YELLOW (transformational meetings) were planned closer to the moment or last minute. I find that spontaneity generally leads to more compelling and valuable meetings.

Exercise #2:

Don’t plan any meetings. Really! Leave a week without any plans. See how your week can be so much more creative and productive. You are only allowed to plan meetings for the very next day. For example, Tuesday meetings can be scheduled on Monday. But not more than one day in advance. All last minute meetings. Having no meetings or appointments doesn’t mean you are not productive. It just means that you are being proactive in the perceived importance of the moment and not a prisoner or reacting to others who are scheduling your time.

I realize that this exercise would be nearly impossible for many people to live with long term. And in fact, I realize you may really have a hard time even trying for one week. Trust me. Try it. You will be surprised and learn invaluable lessons!

Exercise #3: 

Find a different workspace. For a day!

Work from your home office. Or work from a Starbucks/WeWork/or a hotel room.

Just work in a different location from your office. Free yourself from the distractions of the office and other people. While I firmly believe in the importance of working collaboratively in-person with other people, sometimes having the freedom and solo time can yield more creative, productive outcomes.

I have found that a lot of my most creative and productive work and ideas arise from solo time on planes and working from home.

Try this for one or two days! You may be surprised by the catalyst of your creative and productive energy.

Please share your results! Send me an email at andy@breakingmatzo.com or post a comment.

 

My Search for My Afikoman

On April 2nd, 2020 I got the opportunity to share my thoughts and wisdom about Passover as part of a live storytelling event for my good friend Louisa Kasdon’s podcast Let’s Talk About Food. You can see a video of my story below and you can learn more about the Let’s Talk About Food podcast here.

Searching for a Simple and Sweet Bar/Bat Mitzvah During Covid19?

How can you focus on the essence of your Bar/Bat Mitzah in the context of social distancing?

Exactly 39 years ago last week, my bar mitzvah celebration took place on March 21, 1981 in Allentown, Pennsylvania. We did not meet in a synagogue, school, or hotel, but in my family’s two-car garage! I vividly remember my mom and dad moving our cars onto the street and sweeping and decorating our garage. It was so simple and so sweet. I have been to many beautiful (and much more lavish) bar/bat mitzvah celebrations since that time, but when I think of our garage bar mitzvah, it reminds me of what is most important about these festivities: family, friends, and the celebration of life.

Here are my tips and suggestions for how you can have a magical, meaningful and memorable Bar/Bat Mitzvah no matter the circumstances.

Stimulate the mind: This involves the meaning of the Bar Bat Mitzvah, exploring and embracing the wisdom of the Torah.

  • Be counted in the minyan (of 10 Jewish adults) via Zoom or other teleconferencing apps.
  • Chant a selection from the weekly Torah portion (parashah) and/or prophetic reading (haftarah) and its accompanying blessings.
  • You can take a virtual Torah of Israel, connecting with the holy land from the comfort of your own home.

Touch the heart with the Torah:Connect with text that has been around for thousands of years, but make it meaningful to you. Find something in your heart that connects with the words on the page.

  • Read teachings connected to your Torah readings and the experience of becoming a bar or bat mitzvah.
  • Share your thoughts and insights with your family by email.

Uplift the soul: While you may be socially isolating it doesn’t mean you have to be alone. There are many ways to meaningful interact with others.

  • Connect with your family and community digitally.
  • Donate to Charity and perform Tzedakah, in these times a helping hand means more than ever.
  • Share photos and videos with your family and loved ones.

My daughter Caroline spoke at her bat mitzvah of the importance of balancing the “holy day” and “holiday” aspects of this rite of passage:

The way you decide to spend your bar or bat mitzvah day determines whether it is a holiday or a holy day. Notice how close these two words are. A holiday belongs to us; it’s about what we want, when we want it, and how we will do it. It’s about having fun, without necessarily thinking about why we are celebrating. A holy day belongs to God, and it requires us to reflect on the meaning of our lives… Any special occasion can be either a holiday or a holy day.

Magical, Meaningful, Memorable a Winner!!!

I am proud and honored to announce that my cookbook Magical, Meaningful, Memorable has won a National Indie Excellence Award!

In the 2020 National Indie Excellence Awards Magical, Meaningful, Memorable is the winner in the Cookbook: International Category.

When I set out to write a cookbook it wasn’t for the accolades. It was an undertaking of love, a way to share something that means a lot to me with the rest of the world. The recipes in this book were carefully selected from across the globe and through the generations. Each one has a special place in my heart and seeing other people enjoy them brings me a great deal of happiness. The fact that the National Indie Excellence Awards recognized the passion poured into each page is both touching and heartwarming. It just goes to show that when you do good things good things happen to you.

Congratulations to all the other National Indie Excellence Awards winners and finalists.

I just want to take a moment to say thank you. Thank you to my family for their unconditional love and support, for the memories we’ve made and the wisdom you’ve shared. Thank you to my friends for being there through good times and bad. Thank you to everyone that reads and follows Breaking Matzo for sharing this wonderful journey of food, fun, and philosophy with me.

You can get your own copy of our award-winning cookbook here.

PS Mom, thank you for your “double portion”

Miriam and Elijah Glasses

Kids will love making these Miriam and Elijah glasses for Passover!

Decorating the Miriam and Elijah glasses for your seder table is just that easy!  Oil-Based Sharpies and a couple of wine glasses are really all you need to create these iconic glasses for your seder table at Passover.  Feel free to use our custom templates or even create your own look.  Make sure to have some q-tips and rubbing alcohol handy just in case, to erase any mistakes as you’re decorating. Also, leave the glass to cure for 24-48 hours before their use.  The Miriam and Elijah glasses are very easy to make – you might even want to make sure to have extra glasses on hand should you want to customize one for each guest joining your seder.

Young children can delight in creating these on plastic cups! Just follow the same directions with plastic cups instead of glasses.

Materials

  • Clear Wine Glass (white wine glass preferably)
  • Sharpie Oil-Based Markers (fine point) (these will also be used for DIY Seder Plate)
  • Rubbing Alcohol
  • Q-Tips (handy in removing excess paint)
  • Downloadable Images: Miriam & Elijah (also featured at bottom of this post)
  • Tape
  • Scissors
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Before you begin: Wipe down outside of glass with alcohol swab.

Step 1:

Download image here (link) and cut out along dotted lines. Wrap image around inside of cup so that image is facing out. Wipe down outside of glass with alcohol swab.

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Step 2:

Trace image with Oil Based Sharpie

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Step 3:

Go ahead and paint in your design on outside of glass – be creative! Leave 1” rim around outside glass unpainted. Remove design from inside of glass and slip under base of glass to paint.

Step 4:

Let paint dry 24-48 hours. These beautiful wine glasses should be washed only by hand.

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Enjoy your new handmade Miriam and Elijah glasses at your Passover Seder!

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STENCILS: (click on the graphics below to view larger)

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David vs Goliath (Ice Skating in the Desert)

Ice Skating in the Desert

Speed skating is a complicated, high-stakes competitive sport which requires athleticism, focus, and speed. Skaters start together on a track and make their way around it. They start slowly and then speed up as the competition progresses. Skaters must endure years of intense training to learn how to efficiently conserve their energy in order to win. Those are the unspoken rules of the game, but when Vlad Bykanov, an Israeli speed skater, won the 2015/16 ISU World Cup, it wasn’t because he followed the rules.

Everyone knows the story of David and Goliath (Samuel 17:21-52). David, a scrawny, unprepared and unequipped boy, takes on Goliath, the mighty giant. Conventional wisdom says that some twist of fate or divine intervention allowed David to miraculously defeat Goliath. But what if I told you that conventional wisdom has it all wrong? David wasn’t unprepared or unequipped. In fact, years of experience and training had primed him for this exact battle.

In Israel, there is an area marked by valleys and ridges called the Shephelah. It’s a beautiful landscape of vineyards, fields, and forests and historically, it served as a strategic location for hostile armies. 3,000 years ago, the Philistines began to make their way through the valleys of the Shepelah, up through the mountains, and towards the city of Bethlehem. Their goal was simple: to split the Kingdom of Israel into two.

When King Saul heard of this plan, he sent his army to confront the Philistines. Upon arrival, however, the two armies were at a standstill. Neither one wanted to move down into the valley, because doing so would leave them vulnerable on the other side.

In an attempt to break this gridlock, the Philistines sent Goliath, their strongest, meanest, and most capable warrior, down to the valley floor. In doing so, they challenged the Israelites to send their own warrior to partake in single combat and settle the dispute. The 6-foot-9 Goliath descended, towering over the valley in head-to-toe bronze armor and bearing an array of deadly weapons.

The Israelites looked on with fear, knowing that to fight Goliath was to wish death upon oneself. Finally, a young shepherd boy named David approached King Saul and asked to fight the giant. After much pleading, Saul realized he had no choice but to send the boy. Before he went, however, Saul insisted David put on a set of armor. But David refused. He explained that he’s never worn such heavy armor before, and therefore, wouldn’t know how to fight in it. He made his way towards Goliath with nothing but his staff and five stones he picked up off the ground.

The giant sees a figure approaching, but he can’t quite make him out. He urges him to come closer and is offended once he sees the small, staff-bearing shepherd coming to fight him. He’s insulted, saying, “Am I a dog, that thou comest to me with staves?” (Samuel 17:43 JPS). Before he can say much else, however, David launches a rock between Goliath’s eyes, causing him to fall over. David runs towards him, grabs his sword, and cuts his head off. The Philistines run and the Israelites are victorious.

How could David have won? By all available information, he was sure to lose instantly. He has no overpowering strength, no modern weapons, no fancy protection. If he had, however, we might be talking about the victory of Goliath today, instead.

In those times, ancient warfare called for three types of warriors, one of which was the artillery branch, otherwise known as slingers. Slingers, as the name implies, carried a sort of sling that could launch objects towards a target. While this may sound like a juvenile toy, it was actually quite deadly. An experienced slinger could launch a rock at speeds as fast as 78 miles per hour, or 35 meters per second. Furthermore, the rocks in this region were twice as dense as typical rocks, which would effectively render David’s weapon as powerful as a .45 caliber handgun. Lastly, slingers were famous for their accuracy and were trained to hit targets, even moving targets, from up to 200 yards away.

When David approaches Goliath he is much closer than 200 yards. The only factor that could cause him to miss would be Goliath suddenly deciding to move. But he can’t. He’s weighed down by metal armor and heavy weapons. He is waiting for David to approach him and fight him mano a mano. So, he stays still — leaving him vulnerable to the power of David’s aim.

So, what does all this have to do with speed skating and Vlad Bykanov?

David didn’t follow the unspoken rules of the game, and neither did Vlad. If you watch a video of the 2015/16 ISU World Cup, you will notice something peculiar. While most of the competitors maintain modest speeds, slowly building up power as the race goes on, one skater appears to muster up all of his power to pass the other skaters. Anyone who’s watched speed skating knows this is an amateur mistake and assumes the lone skater will run out of steam and eventually fall behind.

After “lapping” the others, the skater again reaches the back of the pack and regulates his speed to match the other skaters. They continue on as they’ve been trained to do, slowly speeding up as the draft from their speed acts as an advantage for the lone skater. Eventually, the skater passes the finish line, throwing his hands up in the air in a victorious state of shock. The other skaters, however, are clueless. They continue racing until, eventually, the second-place skater passes the finish line. He too victoriously throws his hands up in the air. His glee, however, quickly turns to shock as he glances up at the scoreboard and sees he’s been beat. Vlad Bykanov, the Israeli underdog, has just won. He knew that if he played the game just like the other faster, stronger, and more experienced skaters, he’d essentially be admitting defeat. So instead, he did as David did. He turned his opponents’ strengths into weaknesses and shocked the world with his triumph.

Throughout history, we’ve often associated victory with those who play by the rules, who appear to be strongest, and who, on paper, are certain to win. In reality, however, the underdog is the one who must exhibit extraordinary innovation, ambition, and creativity and it is the underdog whose victories are far more satisfying.

Further Reading:

Bykanov wasn’t the first speed skater to secure an unconventional win. In 2002, Steven Bradbury stunned the word when he won the gold medal, beating out famed speed skater Apolo Ohno. Throughout the competition, Bradbury maintained a substantial distance between himself and his fellow competitors, remaining a few feet behind them at all times. To the average viewer, it appears undeniable that he is destined to lose. He just wasn’t as strong or as fast as the other athletes. At the last minute, however, one of the skaters falls, bringing down the other skaters with him. Bradbury, though, manages to escape the chaos, crossing the finish line far ahead of the others. While Ohno, who was predicted to be the overwhelming favorite, did not win first place, he later noted he was content with his performance. He knew he had prepared as much as possible and given the race his best effort. With this in mind, he was satisfied with earning second place.

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You can watch Steven Bradbury’s race in against Apolo Ohno during the 2002 Winter Olympics in Salt Lake City here:

You can watch Vlad Bykanov’s race on February, 2016 in Dordrecht, Holland here:

What Is the Meaning of the Ten Plagues? Who Was Affected?

The Ten Plagues and their connection to the cycle from water to ground to sky to soul:

At my 2019 Passover Seder, my nephew Myles asked me,

  • “Uncle Andy, what do the ten plagues mean?”

This led me to ask two questions:

  • “What was the meaning of the each of ten plagues?”
  • “Who was affected by the ten plagues?”

What was the meaning of the ten plagues?

I would like to share my interpretation about the plagues, as they transition from the water to the air, and the significance of that shift. The order of the plagues is deeply connected to the distinction between the physical and the spiritual. In fact, the plagues progressed from existing in roots in the ground, to the water, to the sky, and finally to the soul. This idea can be seen clearly in the progression of the plagues:

Plague Progression

Who was affected by the ten plagues?
At this Seder, my 10-year-old nephew Myles explained that, with regards to whom the plagues affected, he was taught that the plagues only affected the Egyptians, as a form of punishment from God. The Hebrew Slaves were not believed to have been impacted.

I have a different interpretation. I believe the first 3 plagues affected everyone in Egypt — both Egyptians and Hebrew Slaves, while the following 5 plagues only affected the Egyptians. The final two plagues, darkness and slaying of the first born, did not impact those that chose to leave Egypt and cross the Sea of Reeds/Red Sea (Numbers 21:4) in order to become Israelites/Children of Israel. Those who placed blood on their lintel enjoyed “lightness” in their homes and the angel of death “passed over” their homes and spared their firstborns.

The concept laid out in this story illustrates how everyone was affected by the plagues in different ways. While some Hebrew slaves left Egypt, others chose to stay. While many Hebrew slaves chose to mark their lintels with lambs’ blood and escape from Egypt, others stayed behind. They remained enslaved to both their mental and physical servitude — unable to imagine the Promised Land and, therefore, unable to take the actions necessary to reach it. Not all Egyptians remained in Egypt; some decided to join the Hebrew slaves in their journey across the Sea of Reeds and, as a result, became Israelites in the Wilderness.

Pharaoh is the ultimate example of someone enslaved to the status quo; in this case, the idea that he would always have slaves. Read more about Pharaoh here.

The traditional interpretation of the plagues as impacting only the Egyptians may lead us to believe that people are so innately different that disparate treatment based on origin and background is justified. It also promotes the idea that we are locked into a predetermined fate. I believe that some Egyptians decided to mark their lintel and join the crossing of the Sea of Reeds, joining the Hebrew Slaves in pursuit of the Promised Land and illustrating the ability for all, regardless of origin, to pursue greatness.

My belief is that all who crossed the Sea of Reeds / Red Sea became Israelites — regardless of background (Exodus 10:19). This concept is based on the fundamental tenet that redemption in the Promised Land is available to all who commit to faith and practice as a community. The Promised Land is neither guaranteed to some, nor restricted from others. I hope that considering these different perspectives expands your outlook on the possibilities and potential of the Promised Land – Eretz Yisrael.

You can read more about the story of Exodus here.

Torah References for Discussion:

Torah references of the 10 Plagues and whom they affected:

  1. Water to Blood – דָם (“dom”) Exodus 7:14-24

“And the LORD said unto Moses: ‘Say unto Aaron: Take thy rod, and stretch out thy hand over the waters of Egypt, over their rivers, over their streams, and over their pools, and over all their ponds of water, that they may become blood; and there shall be blood throughout all the land of Egypt, both is vessels of wood and in vessels of stone.’”

In our interpretation, everyone (Hebrew Slaves and Egyptians) was affected by this plague. Please see the following reference:

Exodus 7: 21-22

“And the fish that were in the river died; and the river became found, and the Egyptians could not drink water from the river; and the blood was throughout all the land of Egypt. And the magicians of Egypt did in like manner with their secret arts; and Pharaoh’s heart was hardened, and he hearkened not unto them; as the LORD had spoken”

  1. Frogs – צפרדעים (“tzefardeim”) Exodus 7:25-8:15 

“And the LORD spoke unto Moses: ‘Go in unto Pharaoh, and say unto him: Thus saith the LORD: Let My people go, that they may serve Me. And if thou refuse to let them go, behold, I will smite all thy borders with frogs.”

In our interpretation everyone (Hebrew Slaves and Egyptians) was affected by this plague. Please see the following reference:

Exodus 8:6-7

“And Aaron stretched out his hand over the waters of Egypt; and the frogs came up, and covered the land of Egypt. And the magicians did in like manner with their secret arts, and brought up the frogs upon the land of Egypt.”

  1. Lice or gnats – כִּנִים (“kinim”) Exodus 8:16-19 

“And the LORD said unto Moses: ‘Say unto Aaron: Stretch out thy rod, and smite the dust of earth, that it may become gnats throughout all the land of Egypt.’”

In our interpretation, everyone (Hebrew Slaves and Egyptians) was affected by this plague. Please see the following reference:

Exodus 8:18

“But when the magicians tried to produce gnats by their secret arts, they could not. Since the gnats were on people and animals everywhere,”

  1. Wild animals or flies – עֵרֶב (“arov”) Exodus 8:20-32 

“Else, if thou wilt not let My people go, behold, I will send swarms of flies upon thee, and upon thy servants, and upon thy people, and into thy houses; and the houses of the Egyptians shall be full of swarms of flies, and also the ground whereon they are.”

In our interpretation, this plague did not affect the Israelites. Please see the following reference:

Exodus 8:21-22

“Else, if thou wilt not let My people go, behold, I will send swarms of flies upon thee, and upon thy servants, and upon thy people, and into thy houses; and the houses of the Egyptians shall be full of swarms of flies, and also the ground whereon they are. And I will set apart in that day the land of Goshen, in which My people dwell, that no swarms of flies shall be there; to the end that thou mayest know that I am the LORD in the midst of the earth.”

  1. Pestilence of livestock – דֶבֶר (“dever”) Exodus 9:1-7

“behold, the hand of the LORD is upon thy cattle which are in the field, upon the horses, upon the asses, upon the camels, upon the herds, and upon the flocks; there shall be a very grievous murrain.”

In our interpretation, this plague did not affect the Hebrew Slaves. Please see the following reference:

Exodus 9:2-6

“For if thou refuse to let them go, and wilt hold them still, behold, the hand of the LORD is upon thy cattle which are in the field, upon the horses, upon the asses, upon the camels, upon the herds, and upon the flocks; there shall be a very grievous murrain. And the LORD shall make a division between the cattle of Israel and the cattle of Egypt; and there shall nothing die of all that belongeth to the children of Israel.’ And the LORD appointed a set time, saying: ‘Tomorrow the LORD shall do this thing in the land.’ And the LORD did that thing on the morrow, and all the cattle of Egypt died; but the cattle of the children of Israel died not one.”

  1. Boils – שְׁחִין (“shechin”) Exodus 9:8-12

“And it shall become small dust over all the land of Egypt, and shall be a boil breaking forth with blains upon man and upon beast, throughout all the land of Egypt.”

In our interpretation, this plague did not affect the Hebrew Slaves. Please see the following reference:

Exodus 9:8-11

And the LORD said unto Moses and unto Aaron: ‘Take to you handfuls of soot of the furnace, and let Moses throw it heavenward in the sight of Pharaoh. And it shall become small dust over all the land of Egypt, and shall be a boil breaking forth with blains upon man and upon beast, throughout all the land of Egypt.’ And they took soot of the furnace and stood before Pharaoh; and Moses threw it up heavenward; and it became a boil breaking forth with blains upon man and upon beast. And the magicians could not stand before Moses because of the boils; for the boils were upon the magicians, and upon all the Egyptians.”

  1. Thunderstorm of hail and fire –ברד (“barad”) Exodus 9:13-35

“Behold, tomorrow about this time I will cause it to rain a very grievous hail, such as hath not been in Egypt since the day it was founded even until now.”

In our interpretation, this plague did not affect the Hebrew Slaves. Please see the following reference:

Exodus 9:25-26

“And the hail smote throughout all the land of Egypt all that was in the field, both man and beast; and the hail smote every herb of the field, and broke every tree of the field. Only in the lane of Goshen, where the children of Israel were, was there no hail.”

  1. Locusts – ארבה (“arbeh”) Exodus 10:1-20

“Else, if thou refuse to let My people go, behold, to-morrow will I bring locusts into thy border;”

In our interpretation, this plague did not affect the Hebrew Slaves. Please see the following reference:

Exodus 10:14

“And the locusts went up over all the land of Egypt, and rested in all the borders of Egypt; every grievous were they; before them there were no such locusts as they, neither after them shall be such.

  1. Darkness for three days – חוֹשֶׁך (“choshech”) Exodus 10:21-29

“And the LORD said unto Moses: ‘Stretch out thy hand toward heaven, that there may be darkness over the land of Egypt, even darkness which may be felt.’ And Moses stretched forth his hand toward heaven and there was a thick darkness in all the land of Egypt three days;”

In our interpretation, during this plague, everyone (Hebrew Slaves and Egyptians must make a decision of whether or not to obey G-d. Please see the following reference:

Exodus 10:23

“they saw not one another, neither rose any from his place for three days; but all the children of Israel had light in their dwellings.”

  1. Death of the firstborn – מות בכור (“moot bechor”) Exodus 11:1-12:36

“and all the first-born in the land of Egypt shall die, from the first-born of Pharaoh that sitteth upon his throne, even unto the first-born of the maid-servant that is behind the mill; and all the first-born of cattle.”

In our interpretation, during this plague, everyone (Hebrew Slaves and Egyptians must make a decision of whether or not to obey G-d. Please see the following reference:

Exodus 12:12-13

“For I will go through the land of Egypt in that night, and will smite all the first-born in the land of Egypt, both man and beast; and against all the gods of Egypt I will execute judgements: I am the LORD. And the blood shall be to you for a token upon the houses where ye are; and when I see the blood, I will pass over you, and there shall no plague be upon you to destroy you, when I smite the land of Egypt.”

In our interpretation, the “Israelites” in the wilderness is comprised of both Hebrew slaves who left Egypt and also some Egyptians who, together, became the Children of Israel, wandering in the wilderness and, ultimately, seeking the Promised Land:

Exodus 12:37-38

“And the children of Israel journeyed from Rameses to Succoth, about six hundred thousand men on foot, beside children. And a mixed multitude went up also with them; and flocks, and herds, even very much battle.”

Leviticus 24:10-16

“And the son of an Israelite woman, whose father was an Egyptian, went out among the children of Israel; and the son of the Israelitish woman and a man of Israel strove together in the camp.”

Numbers 11:5

“And the mixed multitude that was among them fell a lusting; and the children of Israel also wept”

Candles, Kiddush, & Wine: Beginning & Ending Shabbat with Intention & Blessing

How do we begin and end sacred experiences? How do we carry a sense of the holy into everyday life?

Among the core religious practices of Judaism is the weekly celebration of Shabbat, the Sabbath. Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel, referred to the Sabbath as a “Palace in Time” – a day of rest, reflection, and reconnection. In our contemporary age, when so much of life moves so quickly, Shabbat comes every Friday at sunset and beckons us to pause from our work-a-day routines and celebrate the essential gifts of life.

Since many bar/bat mitzvah celebrations take place on Shabbat, we have included the following post about the rituals that help to usher in and bid farewell to the Sabbath. Often, the bar or bat mitzvah (and/or relatives) will be invited to lead one or more of these brief ceremonial acts in the synagogue or at home during the weekend festivities.

Candle Lighting (Hadlakat Neirot): It is customary to welcome the Sabbath on Friday evening before sunset with the lighting of candles. Some people light two candles, representing different references to Shabbat in the two versions of the Ten Commandments in Exodus 20:8 (shamor, “keep” or “guard” the Sabbath) and Deuteronomy 5:12 (zakhor, “remember” the Sabbath). Others light one candle for each member of their family. Traditionally, this mitzvah was carried out by women whenever possible, but today this varies throughout the Jewish world. When lighting the candles, we symbolically step away from our ongoing efforts to create, build, and master, recognizing and enjoying all that the Creator and Master of the Universe has provided for us. Candlelighting is also used to initiate other major Jewish festivals.

To learn more about this ritual, including the blessing(s) in Hebrew, English, and transliteration, visit: http://www.myjewishlearning.com/article/shabbat-candles.

Kiddush (Blessing over Wine): On Shabbat and other festive occasions one begins the meal by reciting a blessing over a cup of wine or grape juice — a sign of bounty. Kiddush (literally “Sanctification”) also refers to a modest repast held on Shabbat or holiday mornings after the communal prayer service. The text of the Friday evening kiddush speaks of the Sabbath as a “memorial” both to the creation of the world and to the exodus of the ancient Israelites from Egyptian bondage. In so doing, we give thanks for to God for the great gifts of life and liberty.

To learn more about the kiddush, including recordings of different versions of it, visit: http://www.myjewishlearning.com/article/kiddush.

Ha’Motzi (Blessing over Bread): It is customary to follow the kiddush for Shabbat with a blessing over two loaves of bread. The two loaves represent the biblical teaching that the Israelites received a double portion of manna each Friday so that they did not have to labor for their food on the Sabbath (Exodus 16:4-30). The loaves are covered during the kiddush and unveiled when one is ready to recite the blessing over the bread (many people also ritually wash their hands before the ha’motzi). This assures that we focus on the meaning of each blessing and the sanctity of the moment. After reciting the ha’motzi blessing, it is customary to cut or tear one of the loaves (challah or challot [plural form]), dip the pieces in salt (as was done with sacrifices in the Temple), and distribute it to everyone partaking of the special meal to follow.

To learn more about this ritual, including the blessing in Hebrew, English, and transliteration, visit: http://www.myjewishlearning.com/article/hamotzi-the-blessing-over-bread.

Havdalah (Service of “Separation”): Just as we welcome Shabbat with candle lighting and begin the Friday evening meal with kiddush, so too do we close the Sabbath with a brief ceremony that includes wine and a candle, as well as spices. The wine serves to sanctify the moment, the spices to revive our spirits as we bid farewell to Shabbat, and the flame to call us back to our creative work in the world. Havdalah traditionally takes place when one has viewed three stars in the night sky; in North America, this is roughly an hour after sunset (between 42-72 minutes in different communities. https://www.hebcal.com/home/96/what-is-havdalah-or-when-does-shabbat-end).

To learn more about this multi-sensory ritual, visit: http://www.myjewishlearning.com/article/havdalah-taking-leave-of-shabbat.

A Historic Singing of the Four Questions

Can you believe that this year the average age of the singer of the Four Questions at the Passover Seder was as high as 60 years old?

During 2020, the Seder ritual of singing the Four Questions made Jewish History!  Each year at the Seder, the youngest person present at the table sings the Four Questions. Throughout Jewish history Seders are overwhelming intergenerational affairs. The youngest person present tends to be a child, with the average singer’s age around 8 or 9 years old.  Due to the social distancing measures employed during the spring of 2020, families were not able to gather together in person for the Passover Seder. This meant that at many tables the youngest person present was in their 60s, 70s, 80s or 90s.

We at Breaking Matzo reached out to the Jewish community around the world, asking people of all ages to send us videos of them singing the Four Questions. People answered the call, a diverse array of participants from around the world shared this unprecedented Passover with us. It was a truly touching gesture of solidarity and community, a blessing of light in dark times.

We weaved these poignant moments together into the first intergenerational four questions musical montage in history! It shows that even in times of isolation we are together, strong, and joyful.

You can watch this magical singing of the Four Questions here:

Additional Reading:

The Four Questions are a unique and important part of the Passover Seder. A major portion of the Seder is the retelling of the Passover story known as the Magid. The Fours Questions are asked at the beginning of the Maggid, serving as a narrative framing device for the story to come. The questions are about how the rituals and practices employed during the Passover Seder set that night apart from all others. Each of the answers highlight aspects of the story and why it must be recounted each year. You can watch our virtual Seder here.

Throughout the centuries there have been changes to the Four Questions, originally there were only three. There is some debate as to the proper order of the Four Questions. They can be spoken, but they are usually sung.

The first question asks: On all other night we eat leavened foods and matzo, why on this night do we only eat matzo? The Matzo eaten during Passover is a reminder that the Jews fleeing slavery in Egypt had to leave so quickly that they could not wait for their bread to rise. You can read more about the importance of matzo here.

The second question asks: On all other nights we eat all sorts of vegetables, why on this night do we only eat bitter herbs? The eating of bitter herbs represents the bitterness of the lives of the Jewish slaves in Egypt.

The third question asks: On all other nights we don’t dip our foods even once, why on this night do we dip twice? Dipping foods is considered a luxury, something that slaves would not have been able to do. Dipping parsley into saltwater symbolizes the tears of our ancestors being eased with the promise of spring and new life.  Dipping bitter herb into charoset symbolizes the bitterness of slavery being wiped out by the sweetness of hard work as a free peoples. You can learn more about charoset here.

The fourth question asks: On all other nights we eat sitting upright or reclining, why on this night do we only recline? Eating in a reclined position is a symbol of freedom and prosperity, a celebration of how far the Jews have come since their hardships in Egypt.

Of Birds and Barbed Wire

This article was written by Andy’s mother, Myra Yellin Outwater (of blessed memory) and published in Moment Magazine in April 1988

Walking along the barbed-wire fences that line the fields separating Eilat and Aqaba, war and death seemed dreams away. A black-masked shrike, looking like the Lone Ranger, perched on the branch of a leafless desert tree. Swallows flew by on their way to Leningrad. Black and white vultures en route from Jordan paused to catch a few Israeli thermals on their way to Egypt. A squacco heron streaked by on his way to Saudi Arabia, his white wings vivid against the clear, cool blue sky.

Last spring, along with more than 350 bird lovers and scientists representing 33 countries, I went to Eilat to attend the third World Conference on Birds of Prey.

Israel, the only land bridge between the Mediterranean Sea and the desert, hosts more than 450 different species of Eurasian birds each spring, as thousands of birds fly over what has become one of the largest migratory routes between Europe and Asia.

Within the last 15 years, the bountiful bird migrations in Israel and particularly in Eilat, the southernmost Israeli city, have been discovered both by Israelis and by birders from all over the world. Last year professional ornithologists working with the Society for the Protection of Nature in Israel (SPNI) documented over 1,193,751 raptors and other large birds of prey migrating over Eilat. The SPNI has encouraged birding groups from all over the world to come to Israel.

For the conference delegates, the main attraction wasn’t the indoor meetings at the luxurious King Solomon Hotel, but indoors — in the skies, along the beaches and in the trees and bushes. While the lectures began at nine in the morning, most of the delegates were up hours before, armed with binoculars and portable telescopes, eager to catch a glimpse of the early bird arrivals.

Eilat is a scenic wonder. Within minutes of starting out on the first day, I saw a pair of tall, graceful reef herons standing a few feet away from the beach; one was black and one was white. They fed in the shallow waters, their long, slender legs and yellow slippers submerged, oblivious to the fact that just a few feet away were armed soldiers manning the Jordanian-Israeli borders.

I walked along beaches, by river beds, along the manmade salt ponds and into a vast date-palm forest. By the end of the day’s excursion, I had spotted more than 60 species of birds. The conference sessions dealt with scientific and legislative issues regarding the breeding, migration and protection of birds of prey; delegates discussed the effects of pollution on birds’ breeding habits and heard reports of attempts by ornithologists to re-establish endangered species in new breeding grounds. There was much discussion of strategies for educating the public about the dangers of human practices that destroy the ecological balance.

The delegates were concerned with the effects of environmental changes on raptors, birds of prey including species such as hawks, ospreys and owls. Raptors are large, heavy birds that fly by soaring and gliding. Unlike songbirds, which fly by beating their wings and thus keep warm at the same time, raptors require warm climates. They begin their journey northward in spring on a route that passes over Israel, because of the warm currents of air that develop over the land there. The visit of the raptors is such a special event that the SPNI has organized a group, the Israel Raptor Information Center (IRIC), that studies and tracks these birds.

One conference session began in an ordinary fashion. But as the second speaker took his place at the podium and began his talk on the question of legislation for the protection of birds in Africa, one of the delegates raced into the auditorium and called out, “The sky is filled with raptors, thousands of them!”

It was pandemonium as the auditorium emptied within seconds. Men and women jumped to their feet. While the lucky ones grabbed for their binoculars, the other delegates were calling out in French, German, Italian and English for extra binoculars.

Fifteen minutes later, everyone returned, and the meeting settled down to normal as the speaker remarked, “This is the first time everyone has left before I began my talk.”

For years migratory birds have been a problem for the Israeli air force, which lost several planes in airborne collisions with these birds. To tackle this problem, Yossi Leshem of the IRIC has been making flights in a motorized glider for the past few years, studying the flight patterns of the birds in a project financed by the Israeli air force.

In a paper given at the conference, Leshem reported that the air force has been using his data regarding flight patterns and routes and has ceased flying at certain times on certain routes. No planes have been destroyed or seriously damaged by collisions with birds for the past three years.

At times the conference became political, a microcosm of worldwide conflicts between the haves and have-nots. Since Israel has the most comprehensive bird protection legislation in the Middle East, she was often lauded during the conference as an example to other countries in Africa and the rest of the Middle East.

Yet Third World delegates did not miss an opportunity to point out that their countries could not afford the luxury of effective bird protection. While many of their countries have bird protection laws, few have strong enforcement agencies, which can be costly to maintain. The nonprofit SPNI, which is largely responsible for protecting Israel’s birds, receives money from the government and contributors from all over the world. An American branch located in New York coordinates the activities of American chapters. Founded 30 years ago, the SPNI has established a network of 30 field centers that encourage research, education and a lot of the land and its natural resources. Bird-watching especially has been promoted. Each year more than 300,000 people take part in SPNI activities and field trips; many are young people still learning how to care about nature.

The Middle East is far from being a haven for wildlife. Hunting for sport and for food is common in most of the area. But in Israel most bird species are protected by law. Egg collecting and hunting are practically non-existent.

The conference arranged several half-day excursions into the mountains and deserts to see the raptor migrations. We climbed high enough to get a good vantage point to see the eagles, vultures, storks and falcons. Each day was filled with discovery, and at the end of the afternoon, our eyes were so tired, unfocused and overindulged that pipes in the still waters of the walt ponds began to resemble herons, and rocks became motionless ducks. As we perched on rocks, we watched distant black specks become identifiable birds, and we looked down on the borders and checkpoints of the four neighbors: Egypt, Jordan, Saudi Arabia and Israel.

But birds know no boundaries in the Middle East; they are “above” it all. And the common interest of bird-watching brings together people of different nationalities and political beliefs. On the road I met birders from South Africa, Germany, France, England and America. We spoke of birds — a language understood by all.

How can one describe that flush of exhilaration upon discovering a new bird? How do you describe the incredible joy and fascination of suddenly coming across and seeing firsthand a bird that you had hitherto seen only in books, and whose colors and markings in real life were even more spectacular that you ever imagined? It’s like studying the art masterpieces of the world in books and then finding yourself face to face with them in a museum.

I have been to Israel many times, but going on a bird-watcher’s tour means being in touch with the land in a new way. I was a novice and saw more than 152 different species. My more experienced friends had lists numbering more than 250. It seems certain we’ll all be back; after all, there are still hundreds of species left to find.

Below are pictures from the World Conference of Birds of Prey in Eliat that my mother attended.

In this photo you can see former Israeli Prime Minister in attendance.