Top Religious Sites in the United Arab Emirates

What places do you consider most holy and special? Why?

The United Arab Emirates is a land with a diverse and fascinating history. A variety of people and cultures call it home. Important sites to many religions including Islam, Christianity, Jainism, and Sikhism can be found there.

  1. Grand Mosque, Dubai: The original mosque was built in 1900, but it was rebuilt in 1998. The Grand Mosque is central to religious and cultural life of Dubai’s Muslim community. It has the highest minaret in all of Dubai at 70 meters high. It also boasts over 50 domes.
  2. Ali Ibn Abi Talib Mosque/Iranian Mosque, Dubai: This gorgeous mosque was built in 1979. It is heavily influenced by Persian architectural styles. The exterior is covered in brilliant and colorful mosaics.
  3. Sheikh Zayed Mosque, Abu Dhabi: This is the largest mosque in the United Arab Emirates. The building is over 30 acres large. Work on the mosque started in 1996 and was competed in 2007. It is the resting place of former UAE president Sheikh Zayed bin Sultan Al Nahyan. The mosque has many unique and impressive features. This includes the world’s largest carpet and the third largest chandelier in the world.
  4. Shiva and Krishna Mandir, Dubai: This is the only Hindu temple in the United Arab Emirates. Dubai’s Hindu population was given permission to build a temple in 1958 by Sheik Rashid Bin Saeed al Maktoum. The temple was constructed on the top floor of a shopping center known as Bur Dubai Old Souk. Over time the temple expanded, taking over the stores it was built over. The complex’s commercial origins can still be seen in the structure’s architecture and design.
  5. Saint Mary’s Catholic Church, Dubai: In 1967 Fr. Eusebio Daveri built the Church of the Assumption in Dubai. The church’s foundation stone was laid by Sheikh Rashid. However, over the decades the Catholic population of Dubai grew, and the church was too small to serve them all. It was replaced with St Mary’s Catholic Church and rededicated in 1989.
  6. Guru Nanak Darbar Sikh Temple, Dubai: This temple was constructed in 2012 and is the main house of worship for the 50,000 Sikh residents of Dubai. It contains a mixture of classical and modern architecture, a beautiful symbol of peace and harmony between different traditions. Its design is heavily inspired by India’s Golden Temple.
  7. Jumeirah Mosque, Dubai: This mosque was built in 1976 by Sheikh Rashid Bin Saeed Al Maktoum. Its exterior is made entirely from white stone. The mosque is open to visitors of all faiths and is part of the “Open Doors, Open Minds” program of the Sheikh Mohammed Centre for Cultural Understanding. It is one of the most photographed mosques in Dubai.
  8. Al Badiyah Mosque, Al Badiyah: This is the oldest mosque in the United Arab Emirates, dating back to 1446. Little is known about the mosque’s origins and early history. The mosque is also unique in that it has only 4 domes, fewer than most other mosques. Qurans and other holy texts are stored in large cubes cut out of the mosque walls.
  9. Al Noor Mosque, Sharjah: This mosque sits beside the beautiful Khaled lagoon. It is constructed in the Ottoman style of design and was heavily inspired by Turkey’s Sultan Ahmed Mosque. The mosque holds the world record for the largest wooden charity box.
  10. Derasar Jain Temple, Dubai: This house temple is the primary place of worship for Dubai’s sizable Jain population. House temples are shrines to Jain deities set up in private homes. This temple is on the 6th floor of the Musalla residential tower.

Top 10 Muslim Sites in the Holy Land

What places do you consider most holy and special? Why?

The Holy Land is full of sites of cultural, religious, and historic significance to Jews, Christians, and Muslims alike. Some of the most important locations in the Muslim world can be found in the Holy Land. Here are some of the top Muslim sites to visit in the Holy Land.

  1. The Dome of the Rock, Jerusalem: Islam’s third holiest site sits on the Temple Mount in the Old City of Jerusalem. This shrine was completed in 692 AD. Inside is the foundation stone that marks the spot where the prophet Muhammad began his Night Journey. It also said that the foundation stone was the first thing God created when forming the world. The building is decorated with beautiful mosaics and its sparkling golden dome has become an iconic part of Jerusalem’s skyline.
  2. Dome of the Ascension, Jerusalem: This small free-standing stone domed structure is located just to the north of the Dome of the Rock. It also marks the spot where the prophet Muhammad ascended to Heaven. It is part of the Muslim Prayer Route. It’s not known who built it or when, but it was rebuilt and rededicated as a Muslim holy site in 1200 AD.
  3. Al-Aqsa Mosque, Jerusalem: This silver domed mosque sits on the Temple Mount. It was completed in 705 AD and is the second oldest mosque in the world and one of the holiest sites in Islam. Its name literally means “the farthest” and is interpreted to mean the farthest from Mecca. This is because during the prophet Muhammad’s Night Journey he was transported from the Great Mosque of Mecca to Al-Aqsa. The 35 acres compound the mosque is a part of is called Al Haram Ash Sharif t which means “The Noble Sanctuary.”
  4. Mosque of Omar, Jerusalem: This mosque is located across from the Church of the Holy Sepulcher. It was constructed in the 12th century on the site where Caliph Omar Ibn al-Khattab accepted Jerusalem’s surrender from the Byzantine’s in 638 AD. Omar traveled to Jerusalem to accept the surrender of the city’s Patriarch. The Patriarch offered Caliph Omar to pray inside the Church of the Holy Sepulcher, but Omar knew that if he did so the church would lose its Christian status. He decided to preserve the church’s status and prayed in the courtyard. The spot where he prayed is where the mosque was built.
  5. The Lady Tonsok Palace Façade, Jerusalem: Lady Tonsok was the wife of the Mameluk ruler Muthaffar al-Din. She dedicated the façade of their palace to a group of Muslim mystics called the Sufi Order in the 14th While the palace’s facade has suffered erosion some of the beautiful inlaid marbled doorways are still visible.
  6. The Muslim Quarter, Jerusalem: The Muslim Quarter is the largest of the four neighborhoods that make up Jerusalem’s Old City. The Muslim Quarter is a bustling hub for pilgrims and shoppers alike. There are many beautiful buildings from a range of architectural traditions. The Quarter is also known for its grand markets full of vendors selling spices, clothing, souvenirs, traditional foods, and much more.
  7. The Old City Souk, Jerusalem: In the center of the Muslim Quarter lies a particularly large sprawling open air market. This is Suq al-Qattatin, considered to be the most beautiful of the souk markets. It is a covered bazaar that specializes in cotton merchants. Cloth of every shape and color line this labyrinthine market.
  8. Sanctuary of Abraham/Al-Haram Al-Ibrahimi/The Tomb of Patriarchs, Hebron: This is the fourth holiest site in Islam. The tomb itself is a series of caves purchased by Abraham as a burial plot. It is also the site of the Ibrahimi Mosque, built in 1188. There is a footprint in a corner of the mosque that is believed to have been left by Mohammad himself during his Night Journey.
  9. The Tomb of Samuel-Nebi Samuel, Nabi Samwil: This is the tomb of the prophet Samuel. Samuel shifted Israel from being ruled by judges to be ruled by kings. He anointed both King Saul and King David. The tomb is built on the ruins of a church and contains a Mosque and small synagogue beneath it; truly a place sacred to Muslims, Jews, and Christians alike.
  10. El-Jazzar Mosque, Acre: Also known as the White Mosque, it overlooks the Mediterranean Sea and was named after an Ottoman Bosnian governor named Ahmad Pasah el-Jazzar. The mosque was built in 1781. Most of the building’s materials were harvested from the ruins of Caesarea and Atlit. The mosque houses the Sha’r an-Nabi, a lock of hair from the prophet Muhammad’s beard.

Passover Wisdom From Joan Rivers

The late great comedian Joan Rivers was known for her quick wit and biting insights. She was also the child of Russian-Jewish immigrants and was deeply proud of her Jewish heritage.

Joan Rivers was a frequent guest on the Martha Stewart Show where she was happy to share her thoughts about the Jewish holidays alongside a heaping helping of her patented humor.

Joan Rivers and some adorable dogs made a particularly memorable appearance on the show to give an entertaining and enlightening explanation of Passover. She truly captured the spirit of making the holiday magical, memorable, and meaningful. I encourage you to watch this hilarious performance.

You can also watch Joan Rivers and Martha Stewart make Passover matzo houses here.

 

Faith and Fashion in the Bible: How to Connect your Inner Soul and Outer Shield

What clothes most reflect your inner self?

When Gal Gadot reprised the role of Wonder Woman, she received a lot of attention. We were all so proud that an Israeli woman could secure such an iconic role and earn such widespread international praise and prominence. But what is Wonder Woman without her outfit? Every character, whether supernatural, biblical, or ordinary, bears an identifying outfit, tool, or symbol. I want to explore the integral role clothing has played throughout the Bible.

Adam and Eve – Loss of Innocence

Genesis 3:6-23

The concept of clothing affecting one’s fate appears over and over again in the Torah. Even Adam and Eve, who were free from the burdens of physical coverings, are identified by their unique role as the only characters in human history who lacked clothing and “were not ashamed” (Genesis 2:25). Because they were unable to follow their faith, this innocent disposition did not last for long. In the Garden of Eden, Eve was enticed by temptations of a snake. He convinced her to take a bite from the forbidden fruit (as deemed by God). Once she did, Adam and Even became embarrassed of their nakedness. This newfound requirement to cover up with clothing symbolizes their loss of innocence. This is the first time we see the harmful consequences of a disconnected and separated inner soul and outer shield.

Jacob and Esau – Instigating Deceit

Genesis 27:15-37

Jacob and Esau, who famously battled over their familial birthright, came face to face with the importance of clothing (Genesis 27:15-37). In this context, “birthright” refers to the obtaining of leadership and judicial authority within a family upon their father’s (Isaac’s) passing. Isaac, who was blind, distinguished between his two sons through touch. Granting the blessing of the birthright took place during a ceremony, complete with ceremonial clothing. Esau, who was the firstborn and to whom Isaac intended to give the blessing, would have been wearing a garment with unique patterns and textures — allowing the sightless Isaac to identify him. But Rebecca, Isaac’s wife, had a different idea in mind. She wished for Jacob to obtain the blessing of his father and carry on the birthright. She took Esau’s garments and gave them to Jacob, allowing him to trick Isaac into blessing him with the family birthright (Genesis 27:15). By drawing on the deceitful capabilities of clothing, Rebecca enabled Jacob to get the birthright and become a patriarch.

Jacob and Leah – Veil of Obfuscation

Genesis 29:21-25

Later, this deceitful act comes back for Jacob when he is tricked into marrying Leah. Jacob had intended to marry Rachel, and made a deal with her father, Laban, in order to do so. Before he could marry Rachel, Jacob had to work for seven years. Laban, however, had other plans and wanted Jacob to marry his other daughter, Leah, instead. After seven years, Jacob had completed his duty. During the wedding, however, Laban covered Leah with a veil, so as to not let Jacob know who she really was. In this way, a piece of clothing is again utilized to enable deception — only this time, against Jacob (Genesis 29:21-25). Once he discovered the deception, Jacob agreed to work an additional seven years to earn Rachel’s hand in marriage, as well (Genesis 29:20-45).

Joseph and the Technicolor Coat – Catalyst Coat

Genesis 37-50

In the story of Joseph, we see again how clothing can influence a person’s life (Genesis 37-50). The Book of Genesis began with the creation of the universe. Later, the book concluded with the reconciliation of familial conflict. Joseph’s father, Jacob, gave Joseph his famed multicolored coat, complete with sleeves that were far too long for chasing after sheep in and, therefore, exempting him from such duties. This gift was a symbol of Jacob’s favoritism towards Joseph and an indicator that he trusted Joseph to lead the family over his other sons. Joseph’s brothers, vengeful with anger and jealousy, stole the coat and sold Joseph into slavery. As a result of their resentment, they used the coat against Joseph in order to deceive their father. They bloodied the coat and presented it to their father as proof of Joseph’s death. In this case, the coat symbolized immense power and led brothers to turn against their own flesh and blood.

Joseph became a slave in Egypt and was later appointed a viceroy by Pharaoh. Part of his role was to prepare the country for the upcoming famine and protect Egypt’s supply of grain. Word of this supply traveled to Canaan, so Joseph’s brothers journeyed to Egypt to buy precious resources. When they saw Joseph, they didn’t even recognize him. In this scenario, Joseph could have spited his siblings out of anger, revenge, and contempt, but instead, he welcomes them.

For the rest of their lives, Jacob and his brothers confronted the complexities of death. When Jacob died, Joseph’s brothers feared Joseph would enact revenge upon them, saying “It may be that Joseph will hate us, and will fully requite us all the evil which we did unto him’” (Genesis 50:15 JPS Tanakh 1917). But when they approached him, Joseph was forgiving. He said, “‘don’t be afraid. I will provide for you and your children.’ and he reassured them and spoke kindly to them” (Genesis 50:21 JPS Tanakh 1917). In this moment, the sons are able to come together in unison and bury their father, Jacob, together. Upon his burial, the deceit is finally over.

Later, upon Joseph’s death, his brothers promised to honor Joseph’s dying wish and bring his coffin to the Promised Land, should they ever leave Egypt. When Moses eventually made this trek, he found Joseph’s tomb and brought it to the Land of Israel. In this story, we see a fractured family brought back together. In this moment of forgiveness, a first for brothers, Genesis concludes.

Moses – Birth Blanket

Exodus 2:3-9

When Exodus begins, the theme of familial unity continues to develop as Miriam and Aaron work together to protect Moses. In this book, Pharaoh decreed that any male Hebrew baby was to be drowned in the Nile River. Confronted with this fate, one mother made the difficult decision to part ways with her newborn baby in an attempt to save his life. She wrapped him in a blanket — providing him with protection from the elements. When Pharaoh’s daughter, Bit Ya, found this child, she recognized the textiles in his blanket as those of the Hebrews. She named him “Moses,” which means “drawn out of the water,” and sent Miriam, the child’s sister, to find a woman to nurse him. By doing so, Pharaoh’s daughter allowed Moses to be nursed by his own mother (Exodus 2:3-9), before being adopted into the royal family. In this case, the baby’s blanket reveals his true identity as a Hebrew.

God granted Pharaoh’s daughter special recognition as a reward for her rescuing the Hebrew child and aiding in the realization of His divine plan. When the firstborn Egyptians were killed during the plagues, Moses advocated for Pharaoh’s firstborn daughter and God spared her. While not much is said of Bit Ya in the Torah, the sages found her role in the story very significant. The midrash claims that Bit Ya never died, but was instead granted access to the Garden of Eden. In Derech Eretz Zuta, it reads: “Nine people entered the Garden of Eden while still alive: Chanoch Ben Yered, Eliyahu, … and Bitya Bat Pharaoh.”

You can read more about Pharaoh’s daughter here.

David and Saul – Robe of Reconciliation

1 Samuel 24:11

In the Book of Samuel, Saul set out to find David and kill him. To stop him, David demonstrated his good faith by drawing on the symbolism of clothing. When given the opportunity to kill Saul, David instead cut off a corner of his robe. Later, he confronted Saul, presenting the piece of the robe he cut off and illustrating how, while he could have used that moment to kill Saul, he merely cut a corner of his robe off instead (1 Samuel 24:11). Here, the robe was an extension of the person. David showed how close he was to killing Saul and, in doing so, exhibited his stealth and desire for reconciliation. Saul could now see, for himself, David’s honor and desire for reconciliation.

David and Goliath – Simple, Sincere Shepherd Shield

1 Samuel 17:50

One of the most well-known stories in the Torah is that of David and Goliath. In this tale, David volunteered to battle the great giant, Goliath. Before he went, Saul dressed David in heavy armor, a bronze helmet, and protective gear. David, however, refused to wear any of it — it didn’t fit his identity (1 Samuel 17:38-29). Instead, he wore his simple shepherding clothing and faced the giant with only his trusted slingshot. It was this supposed disadvantage, however, that allowed David to eventually beat Goliath, as his agility and precision was not hindered by heavy armor (1 Samuel 17:50) and he remained true to himself by wearing his own clothing. Because David was able to align his outer shield with his inner soul and identity, he was able to defeat Goliath and eventually become the King of the Land of Israel.

Outer Shield and Inner Soul

With this in mind, I urge you to consider how your clothes affect your abilities. How can your clothing make you more powerful, confident, capable, and respected? Earlier biblical stories show how a disconnect between inner soul and outer shield can lead to deceit and deception. Later, however, we see that a connection between inner soul and outer shield leads to a more integrated, fulfilling, and meaningful life.

Let’s go back to the story of David. Many people probably thought, and still think, that his refusal to wear protective armor was foolish and risky. But, in this moment, I think his ability to remain true to himself was what allowed him to identify his strengths and abilities. He aligned his soul with his external appearance, shaping his character and, eventually, preparing him to help create and rule over the Land of Israel as King. Without a connection to your outer shield, your inner soul cannot flourish. A strong connection to our outer shields of spirituality is what allows us to tap into our fullest potentials.

Further reading:

You can read more about David and his clothing choice in fighting Goliath in the following portions:

1 Samuel 17:38-39 JPS Tanakh 1917

“And Saul clad David with his apparel, and he put a helmet of brass upon his head, and he clad him with a coat of mail. And David girded his sword upon his apparel, and he essayed to go [, but could not]; for he had not tried it. And David said unto Saul: ‘I cannot go with these; for I have not tried them.’ And David put them off him.”

1 Samuel 17:42 JPS Tanakh 1917

“And when the Philistine looked about, and saw David, he disdained him; for he was but a youth, and ruddy, and withal of a fair countenance.”

1 Samuel 18:4 JPS Tanakh 1917

“And Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was upon him, and gave it to David, and his apparel, even to his sword, and to his bow, and to his girdle.”

1 Samuel 19:24 JPS Tanakh 1917

“And he also stripped off his clothes, and he also prophesied before Samuel, and lay down naked all that day and all that night. Wherefore they say: ‘Is Saul also among the prophets?’”

You can read more about David and his fight against Saul in the following portions:

1 Samuel 24:4 JPS Tanakh 1917

“And the men of David said unto him: ‘Behold the day in which the LORD hath said unto thee: Behold, I will deliver thine enemy into thy hand, and thou shalt do to him as it shall seem good unto thee.’ Then David arose, and cut off the skirt of Saul’s robe privily.”

You can read about Jacob being tricked into marrying Leah (because she was wearing a veil, and therefore could not be distinguished from Rachel) in the following portions:

Genesis 29:21-25 JPS Tanakh 1917

“And Jacob said unto Laban: ‘Give me my wife, for my days are filled, that I may go in unto her.’ And Laban gathered together all the men of the place, and made a feast. And it came to pass in the evening, that he took Leah his daughter, and brought her to him; and he went unto her. And Laban gave Zilpah his handmaid unto his daughter Leah for a handmaid. And it came to pass in the morning that, behold, it was Leah: and he said to Laban: ‘What is this thou hast done unto me? did not I serve with thee for Rachel? wherefore then has thou beguiled me?’

Savor the Celebration: Exploring the Blessings of Blessings

This past year, I discovered a new way to look at something very familiar. I discovered the value of exploring the blessings of blessings. I often found myself reciting blessings, such as Shehecheyanu and Hagafen, without knowing what they truly meant. While I had a cursory understanding, I never really thought deeply about their significance or deeper meaning. This year, I decided to make a conscious effort to stop and examine these blessings. By doing so, I’ve been able to find a new meaning for these blessings and change the way I think about my life.

The shehecheyanu is a very meaningful prayer in the Jewish tradition. Over the past couple of years, my life has undergone a period of transition. Through this change, I have learned to appreciate the meaning and subtlety of this prayer on an even greater scale. Celebrating shehecheyanu has truly transformed my perspective on life. Here’s why:

Shehecheyanu is a prayer recited at initial celebrations. This blessing is used when lighting the Hanukkah candles for the first time each year, celebrating a Bar or Bat Mitzvah, or lighting the candles at the Passover Seder.

Some may say that lighting the Hanukkah or Seder Candles is not new because it happens every year. For those, I offer a quote from Hericlatus who famously said, “No man enters the same river twice; for it is not the same man and not the same river.” Thus, each holiday celebration is new. The family configuration may be different based on various life transitions or milestones (e.g., birth, death, divorce, marriage, bar/bat mitzvah) and new friends may have entered your life. Furthermore, often based on these changes, our personal outlooks and perspectives evolve; altering the way we interact, communicate, and express ourselves. I firmly believe that celebrating joyous occasions and momentous experiences helps prevent calcification of the mind, body, and spirit — enhancing our own lives, the lives of those around us, and the lives of those we’ve yet to meet.

There are three key elements of experiencing Shehecheyanu fully. By definition, Shehecheyanu must be recited during a new and happy experience. It cannot be said in a sad context and its significance must not be diminished through routine recitations. Therefore, when attempting to connect to the deeper meaning of the blessing, I begin by actively seeking out new and happy experiences. Next, I take the time to intentionally acknowledge each new and happy moment as such. Finally, I set aside time to express genuine gratitude for the blessing of the moment. By re-examining the meaning of Shehecheyanu, and making myself a more active participant in its significance, I have learned to appreciate and seek out the feelings of adventure, growth, and gratitude.

After a lifetime of experiences, challenges, successes, and relationships, I’ve found that we simply cannot live our lives without exploring the boundaries of our minds, bodies, and spirits. In doing so, we must find new friends to celebrate with, cry with, and discover with. “Blessed our God King of the universe who brings us to this very happy first-time moment.” I hope that you can live your life full of many and frequent happy first-time experiences. One of the greatest blessings of my life has been to share shehecheyanu with as many family and friends, new and old, as I can, and I encourage you to do the same.

All biblically-based celebrations involve a glass of wine, which means all biblically-based celebrations involve the Hagafen blessing. The blessing over the wine is part of the experience and an integral part of the celebration. In the Jewish tradition, there is only one blessing concerned with wine: “buray pre hagafen.” I would like to share my understanding of this blessing and how it has enhanced my life.

Kiddush

Within biblical tradition, there are a number of ritual prayers that one recites depending on the origin of a food or drink. For example, the Haetz Blessing is recited for fruits and foods grown on trees far from the ground, such as apples, oranges, grapes and figs. The Adama Blessing is recited for food that is grown in the ground, such as carrots, eggplant and potatoes. Finally, there is the Shehakol Blessing, which is recited for foods not grown in the ground or in trees, such as meat, fish, eggs, water, juice, and other drinks. The Shehakol Blessing, however, does not include wine.

Given these prayer groupings, why is the blessing over wine separated from other drinks? The Kiddush blessing is an important blessing to honor the special significance of wine (Hagefen). But why is Hagafen only for wine?

Wine Glass

I would like to share my understanding of the blessing over the wine: “buray pre hagafen.” My interpreted translation is as follows:

Blessed our God, King of the universe, who brings us from the fermented spoiled rotten lowly grapes to the sanctified and holy wine. From the suffering of the grape to the soaring sanctified wine. Wine is the catalyst for all Jewish celebrations. While we celebrate and rejoice, let us pause and reflect on the path of suffering we overcame and learned from so that we can fully appreciate and achieve today’s blessing and celebration.

David Ortiz, a very famous Boston Red Sox Superstar Baseball player affectionately known as “Big Papi,” always celebrated his home runs, the penultimate celebratory baseball moment, by pointing to the sky. He did this to acknowledge the resting place of his mother in heaven and honor her memory as he crossed home plate. He wanted to celebrate his home run, while acknowledging the pain associated with the loss of his mom. In this way, his success was a tribute to her love, impact, and memory.

I think of the Hagafen prayer in the same way, in that it has helped me learn to acknowledge the inevitable highs and lows of life. These blessings have been recited over and over again in different centuries, different regions, and different traditions. While the people present for these blessings, the place in which they are recited, and the circumstances under which they are read may have changed, the blessings remain a constant. Throughout the highs and lows of life, I turn to these blessings as a source of eternal stability and gratitude.

Prayer Details:

Shehecheyanu:

Shehecheyanu:

Hagafen:

Hagafen

Silver Glass

Haetz Blessing:

Haetz Blessing

Adama Blessing: 

Adama Blessing

Shehakol Blessing:

Shehakol Blessing Fruits

Fun fact: While orange juice falls under the Shehakol blessing, the orange itself is grown from the trees, which makes it part of the Haetz blessing.

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Holiday

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Purim

Begins sunset of Saturday, March 23, 2024
Ends nightfall of Sunday, Marc 24, 2024

Passover

Begins sunset of Monday, April 22, 2024
Ends nightfall of Tuesday, April 30, 2024

Rosh Hashanah 

Begins sunset of Wednesday, October 2, 2024
Ends nightfall of Friday, October 4, 2024

Yom Kippur

Begins sunset of Friday, October 11, 2024
Ends nightfall of Saturday, October 12, 2024

Succot

Begins sunset of Wednesday, October 16, 2024
Ends nightfall of Wednesday, October 23, 2024

Hanukkah

Begins sunset of Wednesday, December 25, 2024
Ends nightfall of Thursday, January 2, 2025

Tu’ b’Shvat

Begins sunset of Wednesday, February 12, 2025
Ends nightfall of Thursday, February 13, 2025

How Nothing is What Matters the Most (TED Talk)

Happy New Year! In January of 2017, I reruptured my achilles tendon, resulting in a 40-day bed rest. I hope that you will enjoy my TEDx talk about my 40-day bedrest and how I learned that “nothing is what matters the most.” I need you to make time to do nothing sometime this week. I believe that you will find yourself in a state of blessed boredom.

Living Life on the Ladder. How Planning for “Nothing” Can Bring “Everything.”

The dream of Jacob’s Ladder provides a great metaphor for living. In this week’s torah reading, Genesis Chapter 28 Verse 10-19, Jacob dreamed of angels climbing the ladder. Angel in Hebrew means “messenger.” The angel-messengers start on the bottom of the ladder and carry a message up to heaven and then return with a message from heaven down to Jacob on earth. As a result, Jacob learned of his spiritual connection by the ascent of the message and also the message returning to him. It is the journey of a message and how it comes back to us with a fulfillment that we could never have dreamed of when we began the journey of ascent that is one of the very important messages of Jacob’s Dream.

Jacob’s Ladder can provide magical insight into how to live your life and find meaning. A few years ago, I had dinner with a friend, Mike Lewis, who was debating about whether to take a year off and play on the professional squash tour. He was 24, a Dartmouth college graduate where he captained the Varsity Squash team, and was an aspiring junior venture capitalist. He had it all. Or so he thought.

One day, he decided that he wanted to take a year off and play on the international professional squash tour. After careful reflection and planning, he decided to make the jump. We had multiple conversations about the pros/cons of taking time off. In our last dinner when he finally committed to the unknown path of turning pro, he asked me what he would do with his time on the tour when he wasn’t playing squash. He asked if he should enroll in an online MBA, study a language, or start a new company. I reflected and told him “No, don’t fill the time and the space. You will find that something will develop in the time between all of the squash training, squash tournament matches, and travel between the tournaments.”

I explained that he should think of his year of playing professional squash like a Ladder. The geometry of a Ladder is that only 15% of the surface area is comprised of the rungs and ladder structure. 85% of the surface area is air – the space between the rungs. All of the growth and development of the ladder takes place as you climb, from one rung to the next rung. The growth actually occurs in the empty space between the rungs. Similar to Jacob’s dream, the message comes from the ascent of the ladder.

I then made the connection to the squash tour. I told Mike that if he won every squash tournament that he entered, it would take about 120 hours of match squash. If he practiced 2 hours a day, six days a week for 50 weeks of the year, it would be 600 hours. Thus the squash portion of the year would only comprise 720 hours, which is 30 days, or one month. One month of the entire twelve months would be squash related. Eleven months would be the space between the rungs. I told him that the squash tournaments and training were simply providing the structure of his year. That was Mike’s ladder. The exciting opportunity for growth and development was how Mike would handle and learn in the space between the squash tournaments and practice. I explained that he would find that planning for “nothing” scheduled would potentially bring him “everything.”

In today’s hectic world, too many of us fill our lives with so much, yet for so little. Endless and repetitive meetings that are not necessary. Overscheduled personal lives. Multi-tasking without a break.  It is truly like a ladder which has a rung to space ratio of 50:50 instead of 15:85. In such a 50:50 ladder, there is no place to put your feet and hands as you climb. The structure of the ladder is so filled and compact, that you cannot even climb it.

I told Mike, “Try to minimize the structure of your ladder. It should be sufficient to have structural stability. However, maximize the space between the rungs where you can find growth and spark creativity.” I told Mike that “Being bored is a blessing.”

One year later, Mike told me that he had an amazing year. He was so inspired to share his personal story about jumping off the rat race of his life and starting something new. As he traveled, he found many other people searching the question of how to start a new passion while feeling trapped in the structure of their current life. Mike shared his personal story of taking a jump and giving up a secure job as a venture capitalist in order to become a professional squash player. Mike wrote a book and started a social media site called When to Jump. It is a collection of essays and personal narratives that people from all over the world have shared to form a common purpose – how to live a purpose driven life and find personal meaning.

Back to the ladder. One day during Mike’s journey, I received a text from him. “Andy, thought you would enjoy the photo. I am in Cape Town. I am living life on the ladder. Thank you!”

The photo in this blog is the photo that Mike sent to me when he climbed Table Mountain in Cape Town, South Africa. I think that it captures my thoughts exactly. Look at the perspective that you are able to have when you climb the ladder. And look at all the things that one learns and experiences that Mike could have never imagined by just beginning the ascent and learning how to grow and thrive in the space of the journey that is available in between the ladder rungs.

Below you will find three exercises to help apply “Living on the Ladder” to your daily life.

Exercise #1:

Print your weekly calendar for a three-week period. Examine your meetings/appointments and determine when each meeting was Transforming (truly valuable and worthwhile), Neutral (not so valuable and not necessary), and finally a Waste of Time. Use three highlighters to mark each appointment — yellow for Transforming meetings, green for meetings that are Neutral, and Blue for those meetings which were a Waste of time.

Then try to determine when each meeting was scheduled. Was it a longstanding reoccurring meeting? Was it a meeting planned weeks in advance? And finally, was it planned closer to last minute? Maybe less than one week in advance or even the day before?

My hypothesis is that many of the BLUE Meetings (waste of time) are reoccurring and long standing meetings. I would also surmise that many of the YELLOW (transformational meetings) were planned closer to the moment or last minute. I find that spontaneity generally leads to more compelling and valuable meetings.

Exercise #2:

Don’t plan any meetings. Really! Leave a week without any plans. See how your week can be so much more creative and productive. You are only allowed to plan meetings for the very next day. For example, Tuesday meetings can be scheduled on Monday. But not more than one day in advance. All last minute meetings. Having no meetings or appointments doesn’t mean you are not productive. It just means that you are being proactive in the perceived importance of the moment and not a prisoner or reacting to others who are scheduling your time.

I realize that this exercise would be nearly impossible for many people to live with long term. And in fact, I realize you may really have a hard time even trying for one week. Trust me. Try it. You will be surprised and learn invaluable lessons!

Exercise #3: 

Find a different workspace. For a day!

Work from your home office. Or work from a Starbucks/WeWork/or a hotel room.

Just work in a different location from your office. Free yourself from the distractions of the office and other people. While I firmly believe in the importance of working collaboratively in-person with other people, sometimes having the freedom and solo time can yield more creative, productive outcomes.

I have found that a lot of my most creative and productive work and ideas arise from solo time on planes and working from home.

Try this for one or two days! You may be surprised by the catalyst of your creative and productive energy.

Please share your results! Send me an email at andy@breakingmatzo.com or post a comment.

 

My Search for My Afikoman

On April 2nd, 2020 I got the opportunity to share my thoughts and wisdom about Passover as part of a live storytelling event for my good friend Louisa Kasdon’s podcast Let’s Talk About Food. You can see a video of my story below and you can learn more about the Let’s Talk About Food podcast here.

Searching for a Simple and Sweet Bar/Bat Mitzvah During Covid19?

How can you focus on the essence of your Bar/Bat Mitzah in the context of social distancing?

Exactly 39 years ago last week, my bar mitzvah celebration took place on March 21, 1981 in Allentown, Pennsylvania. We did not meet in a synagogue, school, or hotel, but in my family’s two-car garage! I vividly remember my mom and dad moving our cars onto the street and sweeping and decorating our garage. It was so simple and so sweet. I have been to many beautiful (and much more lavish) bar/bat mitzvah celebrations since that time, but when I think of our garage bar mitzvah, it reminds me of what is most important about these festivities: family, friends, and the celebration of life.

Here are my tips and suggestions for how you can have a magical, meaningful and memorable Bar/Bat Mitzvah no matter the circumstances.

Stimulate the mind: This involves the meaning of the Bar Bat Mitzvah, exploring and embracing the wisdom of the Torah.

  • Be counted in the minyan (of 10 Jewish adults) via Zoom or other teleconferencing apps.
  • Chant a selection from the weekly Torah portion (parashah) and/or prophetic reading (haftarah) and its accompanying blessings.
  • You can take a virtual Torah of Israel, connecting with the holy land from the comfort of your own home.

Touch the heart with the Torah:Connect with text that has been around for thousands of years, but make it meaningful to you. Find something in your heart that connects with the words on the page.

  • Read teachings connected to your Torah readings and the experience of becoming a bar or bat mitzvah.
  • Share your thoughts and insights with your family by email.

Uplift the soul: While you may be socially isolating it doesn’t mean you have to be alone. There are many ways to meaningful interact with others.

  • Connect with your family and community digitally.
  • Donate to Charity and perform Tzedakah, in these times a helping hand means more than ever.
  • Share photos and videos with your family and loved ones.

My daughter Caroline spoke at her bat mitzvah of the importance of balancing the “holy day” and “holiday” aspects of this rite of passage:

The way you decide to spend your bar or bat mitzvah day determines whether it is a holiday or a holy day. Notice how close these two words are. A holiday belongs to us; it’s about what we want, when we want it, and how we will do it. It’s about having fun, without necessarily thinking about why we are celebrating. A holy day belongs to God, and it requires us to reflect on the meaning of our lives… Any special occasion can be either a holiday or a holy day.