Numbers in the Seder

Numbers have special significance in Judaism. Nowhere in our tradition is this clearer than in the Passover Seder ritual.

In the Seder we have one, two, three, four, and five. Why? What do these numbers mean to us? What else could they mean?

One

One baby goat or kid (Cha Gad Ya) to be sacrificed
One God

What else might “one” represent?

Two

Two hand washes during the Seder
Dipping vegetables twice in the salt water
Two bodies of water, the Red Sea and the Jordan River. Israelites crossed two bodies of water, Red Sea and Jordan River, during the story of Exodus

What else might “two” represent?

Could dipping vegetables twice in salt water suggest that the first “dip” is to cleanse yourself of Slavery to reach the Wilderness, and the second, cleansing in the Wilderness to prepare for Freedom in the Promised Land?

Three

Three pieces of Matzo
Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, The Three Patriarchs.
Isaac was to be Abraham’s sacrifice (like the Affikoman)
Sarah, Rebecca, and Rachel, the three Matriarchs
Past, Present, and Future

“Past is History, Future is Mystery, All we have is now, which is why it is called a Present”

Slavery, Wilderness, and Freedom in the Promised Land
(Mitzraim, Midbar, Eretz Zavat Chalav U’dvash)

What else might three mean?

Four

Four Cups of Wine
Four Questions
Four Sons
Four Seasons
Four holidays: Shabbat, Pesach, Shavuot, and Succoth
Four Directions “Seeing in 360 degrees”

When God spoke to Abram and made a covenant with him, he asked him to look in all four directions, North, South, East, and West.

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Genesis 13:14, p. 23 JPS

And the Lord said to Abram, “Raise your eyes and look out from where you are, to the north and south, to the east and west for I give all the land that you see to you and your offspring forever.”

North – Ziphon (Hidden)
South – Negbah, (Dry Parched) came from slavery
East – Kedem, Beginning
West – Yama, Sea Full of life
The Four Rivers of the Garden of Eden: Pishon, Gihon, Tigris, and Euphrates

What else might four mean?

Five

Five books of Torah
Five women prophetesses

Miriam – Exodus 15:20, p. 146 JPS
“Then Miriam the Prophetess”

Deborah – Judges 4:4, p. 520 JPS
“Deborah, wife of Lappidoth, was a prophetess; she led Israel at the time”

Huldah – 2 Kings 22:14, p. 832 JPS
“And Asaihah went to the Prophetess Huldah…”

Isaiah’s Wife – Isaiah 8:3, p. 861 JPS
“…with the Prophetess, and she conceived and bore a son, and the Lord said to me (Isaiah)”

Noahdiah – Nehemiah 6:14, p. JPS
“Noadiah the prophetess…”

What else might five mean?

The Role of Women in the Exodus Story

We all know about the role of women as important leaders in the Torah. We commonly refer to Sarah, Rebecca, Rachel, and Leah as the Matriarchs. But in the Passover story, there are FIVE very important women who made incredible contributions to the journey of the Israelites, freeing the Israelites from Slavery:

Shipharh and Puah, the two Hebrew midwives, who defied Pharoah’s orders to kill all Hebrew baby boys and actually hid and saved them.

Exodus 1:17, p. 114 JPS “The midwives, fearing God, did not do as the king had told them, they let the boys live”

Yocheved, Moses’ mother, who hid baby Moses for three months from the Egyptians, and built a miniature Ark (Teyvat) to float the baby to safety.

Exodus 2:2, p. 114 JPS

Bit Ya, Pharaoh’s daughter who boldly ignored her father’s decree to kill all Hebrew baby boys, and she found Moses’ Ark (Basket) floating in the Nile.

Exodus 2:6, p. 114 “She took pity on it and said, “This must be a Hebrew Child” and then she named the baby boy Moses and raised him in the Palace.” No one knows Moses’ real name. The only name for Moses that we know (To Draw Out), is the name that Pharaoh’s Daughter named the baby boy.

Later God said to Pharaoh’s Daughter, “Moses was not your son, yet you called him your son. You too, are not My daughter, yet I will call you My daughter, Bat Ya, the daughter of God.”
According to legend, Bitya never died. She joined a small and celebrated group who ascended to heaven while still alive.

Miriam, Moses’ sister who arranged for Moses’ own birth mother Yocheved to serve as Moses’ nurse in the Palace. Miriam later became the first prophetess.

Exodus 2:7-9, p. 114 JPS

Ordinary to Extraordinary Lives

Heroes in Our Midst

Passover can be thought of as an exploration of the transformation from ordinary to extraordinary. The Afikoman is a perfect symbolic example. During our Seder we transform an ordinary piece of the matzo into an extraordinary piece of the matzo.

Transformation is also evident with the various Jewish leaders over time. Abraham, Moses, Theodore Herzl were all ordinary people who were transformed by force of will and by the events of their time into extraordinary leaders who had a major impact on Jewish life and history.

Reading obituaries is a personal hobby. Throughout the year, I regularly read obituaries looking for heroes whose lives represent the transformation from ordinary to extraordinary that I can highlight in that year’s Seder.

The point I try to make is that extraordinary life transformations are not a thing of the past. Contemporary history has many examples of ordinary. Some were Jewish, but many were not. At our Seder, we read about Anne Frank and we read about Rosa Parks.

A personal note: A few years ago I found an article about my grandfather, Max Fish who saved forty-two of his relatives during World War II. That began my own annual review of ordinary people who did something extraordinary during their lives. Each year and all year long, I read the obituaries in the newspaper in order to find examples for our annual Seder.

We invite the Breaking Matzo community to contribute examples of their relatives, or of other righteous people who exemplify the ordinary to extraordinary transformation in the Jewish community.

My highlighted obituaries have included:

Samuel Willenberg (2016) – Samuel Willenberg, the last survivor of Treblinka, the Nazi death camp where 875,000 people were systematically murdered, has died in Israel at the age of 93. Only 67 people are known to have survived the camp, fleeing in a revolt shortly before it was destroyed.

Charles Goldstein (2015) –  Charles Goldstein, a high-stakes New York real estate lawyer who transformed himself into a tenacious advocate for recovering art looted from Holocaust victims, died on July 30 in Manhattan. He was 78.  Mr. Goldstein, a lawyer with the firm Herrick, Feinstein, was counsel to the Commission for Art Recovery, which estimates that it has recovered or helped recover more than $160 million worth of stolen art since it was established in 1997.

Nicholas Winton (2015) –  Sir Nicholas Winton, who has died aged 106, has been hailed as a hero of the Holocaust.  During the first nine months of 1938, he oversaw the Czech Kindertransport, which brought Jewish children from German-occupied Czechoslovakia to safety in the UK.    Winton set up an office in a hotel in Prague, where he was quickly besieged by families desperate to get their children out before Germany invaded Czechoslovakia.  The unfortunate thing was that no other country would come along and help Sir Nicholas Winton.  On his return to London, he worked with relief organisations to set up the Czech Kindertransport, just one of a number of initiatives attempting to rescue Jewish children from Germany and the Nazi-occupied territories. For more information, watch Sir Nicholas Winton as well as the 60 Minutes piece,   “Saving the Children.”

Jay Rosenfield (2014) – When Jay Rosenfield and his wife, Barbara, heard teenagers jeer the movie “Schindler’s List” in 1994, their reaction was not anger, but resolve. They bought 400 tickets so students at Concord and Kearsarge Regional high schools in New Hampshire could go see the movie. The Rosenfields also arranged and paid for buses and lunches, and organized discussions afterward.   “Years later, Jay and Barbara continued to get letters from students commenting on the impact the program had on their lives,” said their daughter Kim of New London, N.H.  The Rosenfields received a statewide award for establishing the “Schindler’s List” educational programs, according to family.   Mr. Rosenfield and his wife told their five children “that there were people in need and that we should be aware of and act on that,” Kim said. “My father saw every encounter as an opportunity to lift people up and make a new friend.”

Dr. Tina Strobos (2012)- a fearless woman who hid more than 100 Jews in an attic in Nazi-occupied Amsterdam, a few blocks from Anne Frank’s house.

Reginald Levy (2010) – a captain of a hijacked Belgian airline in 1972 was hailed as a hero for enabling Israeli commandos (including Benjamin Netanyahu) to storm the plane and rescue all 100 passengers and crew members.

Miep Gies (2010) – the last survivor among Anne Frank’s protectors and the woman who preserved Anne Frank’s diary that endures as a testament to the human spirit in the face of unfathomable evil.

Helen Suzman (2008) – a Lithuanian born Jewish immigrant, Suzman was the tireless leader of the anti-apartheid movement in South Africa. From 1961 to 1974, Suzman was the only woman, the only Jew in Parliament, and the sole member of Parliament unequivocally opposed to apartheid.

Irena Sendler (2008) – a Polish social worker who saved 2,500 Jewish children from the Nazis by smuggling them out of the Warsaw Ghetto and giving them false identities.

Often harassed by the police, Suzman had a special technique for dealing with wiretapping, which was blowing a loud whistle into the mouthpiece of the phone. As the only English-speaking Jewish woman in a parliament dominated by Calvinist Afrikaner men, Suzman was an outsider. She was once accused by a minister of asking questions in parliament that embarrassed South Africa, to which she replied: “It is not my questions that embarrass South Africa; it is your answers.”

Rabbi Arthur Hertzberg (2006) – a relative of the Goldfarb family who led Jewish leaders in marching with Martin Luther King and chaired the first Jewish Delegation to meet with the Pope.

Rabbi Wolfe Kelman  (1990) – a Goldfarb family relative, (the youngest member of the Goldfarb 1930 Dynow Poland Seder), who joined his mentor Rabbi Abraham Heschel during the Selma to Montgomery marches in 1965 with Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Rabbi Kelman also worked with Rabbi Heschel to prepare him for his 1964 meeting with Pope Paul VI in Vatican City. Wolfe Kelman’s daughter, Naamah was the first female Rabbi in Israel. His son, Levi, performed Lucy’s (my daughter) Bat Mitzvah in Jerusalem in 2012.

Sgt. Roddie Edmonds (1985) –  In January 1945, in a German POW camp, a U.S. soldier named Roddie Edmonds defied the threat of death to protect the Jewish troops under his command.  Seventy years later, he’s being recognized for his valor.  It’s the first time a U.S. soldier has been named Righteous Among the Nations, an honor from Israel’s Holocaust remembrance and research center reserved for non-Jews who risked their lives to save Jews during the Holocaust.   In January 1945, in a German POW camp, a U.S. soldier named Roddie Edmonds defied the threat of death to protect the Jewish troops under his command.  Seventy years later, he’s being recognized for his valor.  It’s the first time a U.S. soldier has been named Righteous Among the Nations, an honor from Israel’s Holocaust remembrance and research center reserved for non-Jews who risked their lives to save Jews during the Holocaust.   “We are all Jews,” Edmonds replied. He cited the Geneva Conventions and refused to identify any prisoners by religion, Yad Vashem writes.    Have the Jewish men step forward or I will shoot you on the spot,’ “Edmonds said.  “They said my dad paused, and said, ‘If you shoot, you’ll have to shoot us all.’ ”  The officer backed down.

Lucas Carrer (1958) – In 1943, the Nazi occupying forces on the Greek island of Zakynthos called Mayor Carrer and demanded a list of all the Jews on the island. Distraught, Carrer consulted the local Bishop Chrysostomos and, together, the two made the courageous decision to deny the Nazis’ request. Now, Carrer’s daughter is visiting Israel where she is being honored for her father’s bravery.

What is a Megillah?

Here is my mom’s (of blessed memory) explanation about the Megillah from her book Judaica. Please also see the gallery below for various images of Megillahs from her book, Judaica.

The Megillah, the story of Esther, unlike the Torah is wound around one scroll, and is read only during the holiday of Purim. And like the Torah, the Megillah is written entirely by hand with a reed or a goose quill.

Ever since the Middle Ages Jewish sages have ornamented the Megillah with beautiful illustrations and ornate calligraphy. Special Megillah cases were carved out of wood, silver and gold. One of the earliest known Megillahs was dated 1637.

The Megillah is read twice during the Purim service. But because the Talmud says that Purim was a miracle where God worked mysteriously, His name does not appear at all in the Megillah text. And because of His mysterious presence, Jews dress up in costumes and assume Purim masquerades.”

Myra Outwater, 1999

How to Make Passover Magical & Fun for Kids

Involving children is the whole point of the Passover Seder.

To make a memorable, meaningful and magical Seder, involve kids in every way possible – and ask for their help. Kids can help prepare the house for Passover, cook, decorate and create special art projects for Passover. And they like to participate during the Seder service.

At our Seders, I always ask the kids to help and play a part in the preparation and participation in the Seder. Kids love to raise their hands and join in to help with the service. With a little creativity, any part of the Seder can become “kid-friendly.”

A Family Friendly Countdown to Passover

Arts and Crafts for Passover:

 

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Involve the kids in decorating and creating Passover art. Your children will be so proud and happy when you use their art creations on your family Passover table. They become the next generation of family heirlooms!

Examples are the following:

  • Create your own Haggadah Cover. We have done this for 15 years
  • Create your own Passover Table Mats (as pictured below) and then laminate.
  • Involve the kids in buying Ten Plague Finger Puppets
  • Decorate your own Afikoman Case
  • Have the kids make a Cup for Elijah and or a Cup for Miriam out of clay, Play-Doh or at a Pottery Studio

    Passover Table Mat

    Passover Table Mat

Search for Chametz (leavened bread):

A few days before Passover, ask the kids to help search the house for Chametz, any kind of leavened or regular bread. This means cookies and crackers too! And then have them help you clean it.

In our family, we do two things:

Firstly, we gather most of our bread products (cereal, pasta, cookies, etc.) and we put in a large cardboard box. The kids then “sell” the box of bread items to a friend or housekeeper. At the end of the holiday, the children “buy” back our bread items.

On the night before Passover begins, we turn off all of the lights in the kitchen. I give the children a FEATHER and a WOODEN SPOON and a CANDLE. They search around the dark in the kitchen to find small pieces of bread that I have hidden. Usually, they take turns. One child uses the candle to find the bread, and the other scrapes the bread off the counter with the feather into the wooden spoon. It is a lot of fun and definitely helps create the Passover spirit.

Cooking

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Involve your kids in the cooking of the Passover foods. Breaking Matzo has a number of wonderful recipes in our Food section that are Kid Friendly. My Children have LOVED helping make our Passover food since they were 5 years old. It has created a magical bond to this day.

Here is a list of some our Kid Friendly recipes:

 

Night of the Seder

Wine

We always have “Kids Wine” for the children so that they feel special. We use cranberry juice mixed with soda water. Other families use grape juice.

Making Charoset to Start the Meal

I always begin our Seder with our pre Seder Cocktail portion. While the Adults are eating Chopped Liver and Lucy’s Special sauce, I have pre-portioned the ingredients for the Ashkenazi Charoset so that the little kids can make it fresh and enjoy it during the Seder.

Washing Hands

Washing the hands is an important part of the Seder, and a useful one for kids!

This hand washer has been in the Goldfarb family for six generations. We always ask for volunteers to help carry the hand washer and towel so that each person can wash their hands TWICE during the Seder.

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The Lightning Fast Seder for Kids

A lightning fast seder is a great way to engage children in the Passover holiday. Young children have great capacity for understanding but very short attention spans. And they get hungry!

For very young children, here are some of our suggestions on how to create a short but satisfying Seder for the entire family. We think of it as the Lightning Fast Seder.

The Four Questions

Have the youngest child sing the four questions in either English or Hebrew. Sing along with the child if that helps overcome shyness.

I enjoy helping my kids practice this in advance of the Seder and then involving the youngest kid and all the other kids in the singing of the four questions.

The Key Highlights of the Seder for Kids:

The Seder Plate

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Explain the elements of the Seder Plate. Let each child touch the things on the Seder plate as you describe them. Use this opportunity to tell the story of Passover – in brief!

Afikoman Magic Trick

I like to ask for volunteers to help me. I ask the volunteers for three ordinary pieces of matzo. I roll up my sleeves and shuffle the three pieces of matzo. Then I say abracadabra and I break the middle piece of matzo to make the Afikoman. “I just turned an Ordinary Piece of Matzo into an extraordinary piece of Matzo!”

The Four Sons

Have the children act out the parts of the Four Sons. The Wicked, Wise, Simple, and the one who can’t ask a question.

One way to think about the Four Sons is to point out that there are “FOUR” sides to each of us. Talk with the kids about the idea that there is no single right path to understanding. That we are each sometimes wicked, wise, simple and often don’t know how to ask the right question.

Note: this doesn’t have to be the Four Sons. It can be the Four Children, or even the Four Daughters!

Opening the Door for Elijah & Elijah’s Cup

You can ask the kids to open the front door to see if Elijah has come. Do this before saying the blessing over Elijah’s Cup of Wine, and then say the blessing together.

By welcoming Elijah, we welcome goodness and help for the needy into our Seder and into our hearts.

Ten Plagues

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We have finger puppets for the kids to share in acting out the Ten Plagues as we sing them. Please remember not to lick your finger when you dip into the wine. You are not supposed to lick the ten plagues into your mouth! The kids love this warning!

Give the children finger puppets or small toys to act out the ten plagues.

Give each child a small glass of “kid” wine. Have them dip a finger in the glass and place a drop on a plate for each plague as you recite the words in English and/or in Hebrew.

The Afikoman Hunt

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Hide the Afikoman, or get a child to steal it.

At the end of the meal, have the kids find the Afikoman, or bring it back to you so you can end the service. Give a reward to all of the children for finding it.

The Seder Dinner Discussion

Choose one kid-friendly discussion topic and try to lead a short discussion during the meal with each child and adult sharing their answer to the question.

Treasure Hunt for Afikoman

Two Schools of Thought:

One school has the kids hide or “steal” the Afikoman and then they ransom the Afikoman back to the leader of the Seder. One school has the parents hide the Afikoman. In our family, the leader of the Seder hides the Afikoman and then the kids find it.

I give the same prize to ALL of the kids for returning the Afikoman. Many Families only reward the actual kid who found the Afikoman. This is particularly sensitive for me because I NEVER found the Afikoman when I was growing up.

I like to give a special coin as gifts. You can buy silver plated coins, or Israeli coins from a local pawn/coin shop in your area. Or find a small sentimental gift that you can give to each kid.

Final answer: All are good. Just make it fun and meaningful for the family. You get to establish your own traditions for your own family.

Sharing the Afikoman: To conclude the Seder, everyone takes at least a tiny bite of the Afikoman. This is a good moment to sing a rousing Passover song as a concluding activity.

Out of the Box Ideas: Make Your Seder Magical & Fun!

Encourage participation throughout your Passover Seder! At our Seders, we frequently ask for “Volunteers” to answer questions and contribute during the Seder.

Our dinner discussion questions are a unique opportunity for children to express their own voice to the community. All of the Seder participants listen to each child express his/her opinion/answer to the question. Then, each child listens to each adult’s answer. Judaism actively encourages children to participate in our various services. For example, the Four Questions during Passover Seder, and the weekly reading of the Bar or Bat Mitzvah reading from the Torah which is always an opportunity to teach the congregation in depth about their Torah portion.

Matzo Eating Contest

We start our Seder by asking for volunteers to eat an entire piece of Matzo as fast as possible. It is so much fun and full of laughter as the non-eaters watch the eaters struggle to swallow the matzo without any water. This is so we can have fun and understand what it is like to be thirsty and wander in the desert like the Israelites!

Songs

Singing helps! Lots of energy and noise is part of a magical family Seder!

Our Favorite Songs to sing with the kids are Dayenu, Ballad of the Four Sons and Chad Gadya (One Little Goat).

Speed Reading Races

At our Seders, we have a reading race, where we read parts of the Haggadah very, very fast. It adds great energy to the end of the Seder, and since we read it in English, it allows everyone to enjoy the fun of participating. After the meal, to complete our Seder, we finish by speed reading the following songs:

Echad Mi Yodea (Who knows one?)

Adir Hu (God is Mighty)